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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby Doly » Thu 12 Jan 2006, 04:40:56

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('seldom_seen', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('smallpoxgirl', 'I') can't prescribe a society transplant.

Can you please notify me when that becomes available?


It is available already. It's called moving to a different place.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby Heineken » Thu 12 Jan 2006, 10:09:45

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('smallpoxgirl', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Heineken', 'Y')ou must be very young and naive to make such comments. And that's fine. But when you've come to the end of your own ride---when you're feeble and riddled by disease and crapping in your pants and maybe totally alone---you may have a more indulgent stance on this issue


Ohh...I'm probably just shooting my mouth off vis-a-vi suicide. I have always said that if I was getting near that condition, just leave me out in the woods and let the grizzlies snack on me. I certainly don't mean to endorse the Shiavo approach to the world. I do think that we have a terrifically dysfunctional view toward pain. JCAHO says we're supposed to ask everyone we encounter what their "pain rating" is. IMHO it's garbage. A pain-free life is a life-free life. Everybody here is so cracked out on ritalin or prozac or pain pills or Xanax that they are letting their lives slip through their fingers. Again, maybe I'm just talking. I've certainly got patients on each of those things. People come to you, ask for help. Say they can't manage their life without the help of meds. What do you say? I can't prescribe a society transplant. Still...I do believe in the message of the Sundance. Shared suffering to create a better tommorrow for the people. Maybe someday I'll be a dancer. I feel like a lot of my patients would be a lot better off if they would spend four days in the August South Dakota sun without food or water dancing for a better tommorrow. Might bring their lives into a little more perspective.


One has to be careful to distinguish between the pain of life and the pain of death, smallpoxgirl. I agree with you that as a society we've become too intolerant of the aches and pains of daily living. I'm 50 and still very active on my farm, but I have some very troublesome arthritis and other joint pain. Although I try to manage the pain with aspirin and ice packs etc., I find that sometimes the best approach is simply to ignore it. However, there may come a time when pain, whether of psychic or physical origin, can no longer be ignored; and if it cannot be treated and there is little prospect of it ever going away, suicide becomes a rational option IMO.

Actually very few people I know take drugs like Xanax. In fact, a lot are dead-set against taking them. So I can't agree with you that "everybody" is taking them.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby guest » Thu 12 Jan 2006, 13:52:35

Why make it so hard? Blood Pressure Cuff around the neck. You'll pass out in about 10 seconds and suffer brain death in about 4 minutes.

Quick and easy with nearly no mess to clean up for the heartbroken relatives....minus the body fluids that you will release when your muscles relax.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby threadbear » Fri 13 Jan 2006, 01:48:51

I have pretty chronic physical pain, not the kind that sends you into fits of high pitched screaming, but fairly bad. This kind of suffering can't begin to match the pain of severe depression and anxiety that I experienced as a teenager. When the organ that fashions experience and sensation into a meaningful context is damaged or temporarily impaired, a person is living not just with psychic pain but with the magnifying effects of complete pointlessness.

This is the abyss that some are thrown into or fall into and ironically it is more likely to happen to those who are in alienating environments like North American suburban society. I managed to somehow crawl out of the abyss in my early twenties after two suicide attempts. Believe me, I was no coward. I simply, at the age of 18 after 4 years of unremitting misery decided it wasn't going to end unless I ended it. It was a good thing I wasn't successful-- But it certainly wasn't a decision made lightly or illogically. The last thing people need, if they actually are experiencing a serious problem is people haranguing them, calling them cowards or otherwise burdening them with their own misconceptions and weird ideological baggage.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby AmericanEmpire » Fri 13 Jan 2006, 02:13:23

What scares me the most about actually attempting suicide is the possibility of a botched attempt. You could wind up screwed up for life if you didn't kill yourself.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby Heineken » Fri 13 Jan 2006, 09:36:32

Much is made of the "botched attempt" problem, but I think that most people who are truly serious about getting off the train will succeed. Failed attempts are often the result of the "cry for help" syndrome; the victim doesn't really want (or need) to die. Our religio-sicko society's approach to suicide should be retooled to better help both the people who are crying for help to live and those who are desperately and incurably ill to commit suicide painlessly and with dignity.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby Heineken » Fri 13 Jan 2006, 09:49:17

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('threadbear', 'T')he last thing people need, if they actually are experiencing a serious problem is people haranguing them, calling them cowards or otherwise burdening them with their own misconceptions and weird ideological baggage.


So naturally that's exactly what happens in our culture. We even have officially designated harangers, like Pat Robertson, who are given plenty of air time by the state media for their every haranging pronouncement.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby smallpoxgirl » Fri 13 Jan 2006, 11:34:55

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Heineken', 'M')uch is made of the "botched attempt" problem, but I think that most people who are truly serious about getting off the train will succeed.


I dunno. I've seen some folks that were pretty serious and unsuccessfull. Had a guy down in San Francisco that stepped in front of a transit train, but I guess his timing was off or something, so it ended up just cutting off his feet. Another common problem is trying to shoot yourself in the head with a shotgun. In reaching for the trigger your head tilts back so that you just end up blowing off your face.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby Heineken » Fri 13 Jan 2006, 12:51:12

That's why we need social support for painless, nonmessy, dignified, and highly effective methods like those promoted by Derek Humphry.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby AmericanEmpire » Fri 13 Jan 2006, 15:01:09

What I find totally stupid about our current society is that considering the overpopulation problem we should support as many people as we can who want to end it all.

Instead we prolong life as long as possible with as many people as possible, through medical technology to the point of even hooking people up to machines when there bodies have no way of surviving on their own.

We are willing to be humane and put down a pet when its in incurable pain but not a human. Its ridiculous.

I'd guess it goes back to valuing human life over anything else in the natural world. The whole reason we are in this stupid mess.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby lardlad » Fri 13 Jan 2006, 20:34:13

A good book for those interested in this general area is How We Die by Dr Sheldon Nuland.

A sobering read.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby Heineken » Sat 14 Jan 2006, 23:04:08

Thanks for the suggestion, lardlad. I have ordered this book.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby Wrencher » Sun 15 Jan 2006, 01:21:31

SPGirl and RonMN - You make some great points. One thing that I have seen is sometimes people surprise themselves and other with the courageous way that they face the final trials in their lives. My Graddad, my Father-in=law, and now my Dad have all exhibited a lot of courage as the time ran out in their lives. This I have to contrast with the scars that remain with a friend (years an years later) whose father committed suicide.

I watcherd 'Cinderella Man' recently. The movie showed the terrible conditions that were endured during the Great Depression, and it also showed the great love and courage that Jimmy Braddock showed for his family. I don't know how many of you have seen this movie, but Jimmy Braddock was a heavy weight contender who fought hurt, became a loser, lost his boxing commision, and was forced to work at the docks. Some days he couldn't get a shift, and finally they were forced to send their kids to relitives because they couldn't feed them. Then he gets a break to fight one more time..... and he won..... then another fight.... And he gets into the ring with a really, really tough guy, who should shred him in the first round. He gets hit so hard that the mouth guard pops out of his bloody mouth. He is seeing double,, maybe triple. Then he sees, in his mind, hungry kids, empty beds, overdue bills, hungry and sad wife, and he smiles, puts his mouthguard back in, and goes back to the fight. How very sad it would have been if he would have shot himself when he lost his boxing commsion and left his wife and kids to face the hardships, lonely and alone.

Peak oil is the ultimate test of how we see the world. Is the oilfield half full, or half empty? Are our lives half full or half empty? If we feel that they are half empty, maybe we should fill them with love, service, friends....there is a lot to be done, and most of the world has no clue.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby lardlad » Sun 15 Jan 2006, 03:16:54

@Wrencher: if we have a nasty meltdown post-PO and medicines are hard to get, and life becomes an unbearable scramble just to survive, there will be MANY people who will not want to continue.

I picture the poor sad things I saw in the US, often hugely fat, diabetic (or other chronic ill-health), sometimes living on food stamps, living alone in cramped little apartments, often making minimum wage at BigBox Mart, totally dependent on their cars for all the essentials ... for such people, an enormous increase in the hardships of living would be too much.

Try not to be judgemental.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby Wrencher » Sun 15 Jan 2006, 20:05:41

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('lardlad', 'I') picture the poor sad things I saw in the US, often hugely fat, diabetic (or other chronic ill-health), sometimes living on food stamps, living alone in cramped little apartments, often making minimum wage at BigBox Mart, totally dependent on their cars for all the essentials ... for such people, an enormous increase in the hardships of living would be too much.

Try not to be judgemental.


I'm not really sure that anything in that last post was judgmental, and I know that nothing in it was intended to be. I oppose suicde because of what it does to the survivors. You can rationalize 'rights' like these all you want to, but in the vast majority of cases these people had familys and friends who are left with guilt and haunting memory of what might have been.

I would never presume to judge someone who is so depressed and alone that they take their own life. But I have seen the pain that they have left behind, and think that calling this a 'right' or seeing it as the logical conclusion to a life well lived is just garbage. Just my opinion. Everyone has one.

Being sick, fat, and working at a Big Box and living alone in an appartment doesn't seem like the end of the world to me. On these boards there is a lot of wailing and angst about the endless constumption and materialism that is found in the U.S. and Europe, and yet aren't you (and others ) saying that when the materialism that we have built so much of our lives around dissappears, then there will be little to live for? I believe there will be and should be much to live for, peak oil - or not. Thats all. Peak Oil only lets us look at what is important to us. If easy living and the good things of the oil age are what we love, it is time to look further or be gravely dissappointed.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby alpha480v » Sun 15 Jan 2006, 20:26:22

Good post Wrencher, I agree totaly.My brother killed himself 5 years ago.

Those that choose to comitt suicide don't stop to think of the pain that they put their loved ones through.All they are concerned about is their problems,real or imagined.It is quite selfish of them really.I will never forgive my brother for the pain that he put his family through,especially our mother.There was no reason at all that we could see as to why he did it.I loved my brother,how dare he do this to his family!

If I ever see my brother in the afterlife if there is one,I'll kick his ass!
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby lardlad » Sun 15 Jan 2006, 20:35:53

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Wrencher', 'B')eing sick, fat, and working at a Big Box and living alone in an appartment doesn't seem like the end of the world to me.


It could be, if gas is too expensive to buy and you can't go anywhere or get your medicines and your job goes "phut!". Use your imagination.

Some will respond by fighting desperately to survive, but those who were holding on to life by their fingernails before PO will not even want to try, your hand-wringing about relatives and our weak morals notwithstanding.

I'm talking about reality, you're talking in theoretical terms. I'm saying what will happen, you're telling us what should happen.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby jesus_of_suburbia_old » Mon 16 Jan 2006, 02:53:26

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'I')'m talking about reality, you're talking in theoretical terms. I'm saying what will happen, you're telling us what should happen.

Well thank god we have you here to tell us what will happen. I don't know what we'd do without you. You, knowing exactly how things will play out and who will survive. We need a special forum, just for you.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby lardlad » Mon 16 Jan 2006, 03:49:53

I wish there was a "special" forum just for the religious types. :evil:

Nietzsche had it so right on the religions that emanated from the middle east.
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Re: Practice Makes Deadly Perfection, Suicide Researcher Say

Unread postby Wrencher » Mon 16 Jan 2006, 10:22:47

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('lardlad', 'I')'m talking about reality, you're talking in theoretical terms. I'm saying what will happen, you're telling us what should happen.


I think we are painting with different width brushes. I understand your belief that many people will suffer, and maybe that some will prefer to end their lives. It is pretty much beyond dispute that all of our lives are going to change, and likely to become harder, and maybe very much harder. You seem to be saying that those that can not or will not adapt will find post peak conditions so terrible that they will not want to live, and that suicide is a valid repsonse.

You are right to say that there will be violence, hunger, sickness, and all kinds of breakdowns. But I don't think that this condition will be universal, or evenly distributed throughout the world. And I can't do much about wide-brush macro conditions in the world. Your are also right in that I am talking about what should, or more accurately what can be.

There doesn't seem to be anything that any of us can do to change the fact that hydrocarbons are going to become increasingly scarce and precious. But there are things that can be changed, and the world hasn't come to an end yet, so we do have some little time. With that time and knowledge we can change what we do, how we act, what we think, and to prepare. None of us know when the peak will be, how steep the declines will be, or how markets will react. That we will be going into an era of ever scarcer petroelum resuources is beyond argument. How the world reacts, or your part or my part of it is unknown and until it happen, unknowable.

I live out in the middle of nowhere - on the edge actually, the middle is further out. Transportation is going to be a problem for me I think. I am not sure yet just how to work on that. I do have a fairly big yard and have a reasonably productive garden. This year I hauled in six truck loads of mushroom mulch. I have a quote for ten 4'x8' double glass patio door windows that I am planing to use for a solar collector/greenhouse. We have food storage, a flour mill, we know how to cook from scratch. We have dutch ovens. So far this is about all I can do to prepare.

We all are in different situations. I understand that. And yes, I guess I speak to what can/should happen as I don't believe that the future is written yet. I believe that we largely write our own story, and that we can choose hope, inclusiveness, interdepedance or selfishness, exclusion, despair, and nihlism. Doubtless many will choose that latter. But many will choose the former as well, and will be happy inspite of the problems they face.
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