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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby bobcousins » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 08:15:35

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('rogerhb', 'T')he one I find most remarkable is that Americans have been trained like monkeys to hate the poor. There are many arguments why, such as it's the land of opportunity etc.


It's actually a really good question. I saw a good analysis of it which I now can't find. At some point, the US was transformed from that Christian principle which says that everyone is equally worthy, provided they worship God, to a principle which implies your moral worth depends on how financially rich you are.

This has its roots in the change of social viewpoint. In the european old world, you had the class structure which defined where people were. Social mobility did not happen, people reluctantly accepted their lot. You can even see this today. Aristos and poor people actually get on really well. They both don't care about money (for different reasons), and just like to have a good time. It is the Middle class who agonise, they despise the rich for being lazy and inheriting wealth, and they either sympathise with the poor for being uneducated or despise them for having no aspirations. If you saw "I'm a Celebrity Get Me Out of Here..." you can see this being played out.

In the New World, the old class system is discarded. The new ethic is work hard and you will be successful. It's the "anyone can be President" principle. The flip side to this principle, is that if you are poor, it implies that you have not been working hard enough, or are otherwise defective. In fact, the idea of American social mobility is a complete myth. Studies have shown that social mobility is lower in the USA than in most other western countries. Americans will not however abandon the myth of a class-less society - it is their ideology. They stick to the ideology, and this is why the poor continue to be despised. They must be to blame themsleves for being poor - othwerse they deny the American Dream.

The reality is that modern America has a more rigid class structure than the world they tried to leave behind. The class structure is based on money and power, which determines access to education, jobs and capital. This is inherited as much as titles are. The poor are a constant reminder that the American Dream is a myth, and that is why they are despised.
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby LadyRuby » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 09:08:47

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('rogerhb', 'W')e know that the USA is an exceptional country, in that it has various common behaviours that are considered exceptional in other countries including most other Western nations.

The one I find most remarkable is that Americans have been trained like monkeys to hate the poor. There are many arguments why, such as it's the land of opportunity etc. But in a capitalist ponzi scheme you have to have a lot of poor people otherwise nothing gets done. If people are poor they are blamed for being poor. It's a great system, the rich hate the poor, and they get the middle class to hate the poor, and also get the poor to hate the poor. Remarkable. And then to top it off it call's itself a Christian nation, and if there was one topic that ol' Jesus used to rant on and on about it was the meak and the poor and how they would inherit the earth. Bizarre.

To be an American you need to simultaneously believe contradictory things. Then to top it off, you have people burning out trying not to be poor and hating themselves while they are poor, then you make them pay for health-care. Brilliant.


Why are New Zealanders obsessed with asking stupid questions about Americans?
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby perplexd » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 09:12:36

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('nuhax', 'F')orty-six percent of all poor households actually own their own homes.


You mean 46 percent of all poor households are highly leveraged in debt? Very few people actually own their home. Many people own a mortgage, though.
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby Paul64 » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 09:26:26

I agree with those responding that we don't actually hate the poor; we just do our best to ignore them. Me, guilty as charged; I have to admit sadly I don't have a huge compassion for the poor here in the U.S.; most of them get by ok and have more than enough material comforts and watch plenty of TV. Many are grossly obese, unhealthy, and personally helpless. I don't blame them for the situation and culture they have been born into, or subscribe to the idea that they can 'pick themselves up' and get to a better situation. All in all it's quite sad, but giving them welfare funds does nothing to help in the long run.

The 'poor' people in this world I have a true affinity for (if you can call them 'poor'), despite a limited association, are the remaining indigenous peoples of the third world. In Peru I had the privilege of being exposed to the culture and music of the indians in the small village of Chivay. These indians live lives more balanced in mind, body, and spirit than almost all of us first-worlders rich or poor, have a unique culture and a wonderful spirit, amazing music and dance, and the smiles on their faces told a thousand words and deeply moved me.

Thinking about the encroachment on these fast-disappearing villages and peoples by heartless mining and other first-world interests breaks my heart far more than the tragic scenes from New Orleans.
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby thuja » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 10:30:28

My job is to work with the poor and those with disabilities. Yesterday I stood in line with one of my friends for over two hours with 80 other needy people so he could get a bag of groceries. My friend is old and slightly disabled and lives on 564 $ a month plus 60 $ in food stamps he gets from the govt. He is one of the lucky ones because he was labeled with having a disability so he can receive this paltry check once a month. He survives by going to food banks, soup kitchens and leaving the heat off at his appartment so his electricity bill isn't too high.

The working class have it maybe worse than he does. They have to work their asses off and still don't have enough to pay for health or dental insurance which comes for free if you are destitute. If they have children, they are in a hole they can't get out of. They need to pay for larger living quarters and spend extras for clothing, and more food. Many of these folks are racking up massive credit card debt and many file for bankruptcy (increasingly difficult here).

The middle class have it just a bit better but are squeezed by the cost of mortgage payments (increasingly high due to housing bubble), health care costs, student loans, energy bills, etc. The middle class is not saving and many go into credit card debt as well.

This leaves the professional class (upper middle) and the wealthy on the top. There is an increasing division between the bottom and the top and social mobility is getting increasingly difficult. With the advent of PO and as costs for everything goes up and jobs dry up, the struggling working and middle class will simply fall into the ranks of the poor as they just can't make ends meet.

Those who "hate" the poor, or just ignored them, will experience first hand what its like to have difficulty getting food on the table.
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby 1966 » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 10:38:27

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('LadyRuby', 'W')hy are New Zealanders obsessed with asking stupid questions about Americans?

if it was such a stupid question, why didn't you all just ignore it?

and BTW, which NZers are you referring to?
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby spudbuddy » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 11:31:05

on the other hand, how stupid a question was it, really?
Our media-addicted world saw those New Orleans pix on tv.
Everyone knows anyone who had the means just drove out of town.
There's a dividing line well illustrated.
But anyhow-
As far as hatred goes:
Corporations hate the cost of labor (we can hardly imagine how much, unless we live in boardrooms)
and poor people work for wages.
They do not cash in stocks, bonds.
The majority of them are not old enough to vote, or legally own property.

If you are a wage earner, just imagine some executive sitting in an office somewhere, examining the cost of your paycheck, and really loathing that expense. Kinda gives you the heebie jeebies, doesn't it?
Sorta like Bela Lugosi comes to life for real, and wears a suit.
Notice how much cuter vampires are getting on tv these days? They all look like pop stars. A socially viable concept.

I suppose poverty is a valid topic on this website. Lord knows it is a growing fact of life, and it wouldn't be a bad idea if people knew the real reasons why.

I have to quote this:
In 1988 Jonathan Kozol wrote an amazing book called "Rachel and Her Children" in which he lurks around places like the St. Martinique hotel in NYC...interviewing the single parent families he found there.
These homeless families were put up in the hotel, because that is how the authorities decided they could house them. At the time (17 years ago) this form of housing cost the municipal government approx. $2600 a month per hotel room.
At the time, an apartment suitable to house a family cost less than a third of this amount. But that third...was deemed "unaffordable" by the powers that be. They were far happier with the "whip the puppy" set of policies they'd set up.
One of the women living in the hotel with her children had this to say:

"Yeah, they all get together, all them pop stars organize and record some song, and send the profits off to Africa 'cause they saw some pictures of starving children...well, ain't my children starving enough? Ain't they black enough? God bless America for being so generous!"

America doesn't need the rest of the planet to throw daggers. What dwells within its own borders does just fine.
For a look at a possible future...read Jack London's "People of the Abyss."
This will tell you what the east end of London looked like in 1904, at the height of the English Empire, the very apex of its power and wealth.
America hardly invented the concept.
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby LadyRuby » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 12:19:06

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('1966', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('LadyRuby', 'W')hy are New Zealanders obsessed with asking stupid questions about Americans?

if it was such a stupid question, why didn't you all just ignore it?

and BTW, which NZers are you referring to?


I'm speaking to Roger, the original poster, who indicates he's from New Zealand. Sometimes he has intelligent things to say but often he's just baiting Americans with stupid questions.

Think of America like a highly dysfunctional family. If my brother wants to criticize my sister for being a lousy sister, fine. I may agree with him or disagree, but I wouldn't begrudge him his right to criticize her. But if someone from the outside, who perhaps doesn't know my family well, tries to criticize my sister for being a lousy sister, to hell with him! What does he know?!!! Mind your own business. So it's kind of like that.

We Americans know that making a blanket statement that applies to all 250 plus million of us is stupid. We know that there are "good guys" in this country and "bad guys" but mostly shades of good/bad guys in between. So stupid questions that make broad claims about all Americans are just that. Stupid. I guess Roger finds some entertainment in them.

Anyway, why does New Zealand still live under the British Queen? Don't New Zealanders think that's a stupid thing to waste their money on? And why did New Zealand have to ask the U.K. for independence, rather than just asserting your own independence? Sounds kind of wimpy to me. Don't you New Zealanders have a backbone of your own?
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby rogerhb » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 15:28:13

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('LadyRuby', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('1966', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('LadyRuby', 'W')hy are New Zealanders obsessed with asking stupid questions about Americans?

if it was such a stupid question, why didn't you all just ignore it?


I'm speaking to Roger, the original poster, who indicates he's from New Zealand. Sometimes he has intelligent things to say but often he's just baiting Americans with stupid questions.

Think of America like a highly dysfunctional family. What does he know?!!! Mind your own business. So it's kind of like that.


Yup, that was me! The reason I ask, is America sets itself up as "the leader of the free world" and as a citizen of one of the smaller countries I'm saying, "okay, what are you offering us?" If the USA was isolationist we would not care what the USA gets up to, but since it's not, we do.

If somebody was offering you a new car, would you say, yes I'll take it, or would you compare it with your old car?

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('LadyRuby', 'A')nyway, why does New Zealand still live under the British Queen? Don't New Zealanders think that's a stupid thing to waste their money on? And why did New Zealand have to ask the U.K. for independence, rather than just asserting your own independence? Sounds kind of wimpy to me. Don't you New Zealanders have a backbone of your own?


1. We are part of the commonwealth, just like Australia and Canada. Just like any system there are pros and cons. At the moment there are seen to be more pros than cons.

2. We don't spend much money on the Queen at all, only when she visits. The UK tax payer picks up the tab along with her investments.

3. Now if I remember correctly the USA didn't just assert it's independance, it had a war to assert it. We don't believe that war is the solution to all international disputes. Ghandi would also sound kind of wimpy to you as well. We also arranged a treaty with the original inhabinets of NZ rather than use genocide as the solution to acquiring land. That was most probably wimpy as well.

4. Yes, New Zealanders have a backbone, that was shown at Gallipoli, the Western Front, the western desert, Italy and Monte Cassino. Unlike the US, NZ turned up on time for both of those conflicts. Whether today's generations can match our forefathers is another issue, but we did do a good job in East Timor.

I reckon that at some point in the future NZ will no-longer have the Queen as our head. At the moment, there are more pressing issues.
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby Tyler_JC » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 17:06:11

The heavy Socialist leaning of this website never ceases to amaze me.

How about I ask the question, "Why do Europeans feel the need to steal money from productive people in order to give free stuff to nonproductive people?"

It is not my personal responsibility to make sure that someone 1000 miles away in a Chicago ghetto has a place to sleep every night.

It might be the responsibility of the city of Chicago, but it is definitly NOT my problem.

I oppose all federal welfare schemes.

State welfare programs might be more acceptable because at least it helps the people within an specific area.

We have, or at least used to have, a strong belief in limiting the power of a federal government in favor of more local control.

To each his own, right?

My town takes care of its poor, yours should do the same.

Peak Oil will mean the end of suburban living and the middle class will either dieout or return to the cities or move to smaller farming communities.

The current problems are a result of the white flight to the suburbs. When the poor are out in the open instead of "over there", we will see more charity.

But stealing from my paycheck in order to "help" some other random person in another country (as I consider Chicago to be) is wasteful, unconstitutional, and immoral.
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby Vexed » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 17:18:40

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'W')hy do Americans hate poor people?


$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'j')ohnludi wrote
Because we are all secretly terrified that it'll happen to us...


We are "secretly terrified", and yet the threat itself is overt and ubiquitous.

Just look at the media. Here are two examples off the top of my head:

The movie: "Get Rich or Die Trying" is just about to be released. So, being rich is better than being alive?

The Comedy Channel have been airing spots for "The Mind of Mencia". One of his one-liners in the previews is something along the lines of: "Lets face it, if you are still working at fast food past the age of 25, you are a loser!" followed by canned laughter.

Does anyone else have real-world examples of how American mindsets (about the poor) are manipulated by the media?
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby jato » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 17:29:04

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'I') oppose all federal welfare schemes.


I'll go further and say that I oppose all Government welfare schemes. I support the idea of private charity.
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby Trab » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 17:34:13

Tyler's rant has some merit, but it falls short, I think. Socialist or capitalist... it doesn't really matter. The main difference is who is benefitting from the cash that the state takes from the people. It's wealth redistribution either way. I feel no better about that portion of my tax money that goes to corporate subsidies versus that which goes to welfare.

The whole concept of a 'safety net' like welfare is quite modern, and is probably only valid in a scenarios where there is both excess energy/capacity to allow people to survive without working, and a culture where a large number of people aren't forced to provide for themselves (i.e. subsistence farming, etc.).

In a low-energy future, one would contribute to the common good or be forced out of the community. There were no welfare queens in the middle ages. :-)
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby LadyRuby » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 17:55:22

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('rogerhb', 'Y')up, that was me! The reason I ask, is America sets itself up as "the leader of the free world" and as a citizen of one of the smaller countries I'm saying, "okay, what are you offering us?" If the USA was isolationist we would not care what the USA gets up to, but since it's not, we do..


No, I don't think was your original question. Your original post is why do Americans treat their fellow poor Americans like shit?

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('LadyRuby', 'A')nyway, why does New Zealand still live under the British Queen? Don't New Zealanders think that's a stupid thing to waste their money on? And why did New Zealand have to ask the U.K. for independence, rather than just asserting your own independence? Sounds kind of wimpy to me. Don't you New Zealanders have a backbone of your own?


$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('rogerhb', '
')1. We are part of the commonwealth, just like Australia and Canada. Just like any system there are pros and cons. At the moment there are seen to be more pros than cons.

2. We don't spend much money on the Queen at all, only when she visits. The UK tax payer picks up the tab along with her investments.

3. Now if I remember correctly the USA didn't just assert it's independance, it had a war to assert it. We don't believe that war is the solution to all international disputes. Ghandi would also sound kind of wimpy to you as well. We also arranged a treaty with the original inhabinets of NZ rather than use genocide as the solution to acquiring land. That was most probably wimpy as well.

4. Yes, New Zealanders have a backbone, that was shown at Gallipoli, the Western Front, the western desert, Italy and Monte Cassino. Unlike the US, NZ turned up on time for both of those conflicts. Whether today's generations can match our forefathers is another issue, but we did do a good job in East Timor.

I reckon that at some point in the future NZ will no-longer have the Queen as our head. At the moment, there are more pressing issues.


Gotcha! Just wanted to put you on the defensive.

For the record, I agree with probably most of the criticisms of the U.S., but if you're talking about some internal problem within the U.S. (such as how shitty we treat our poor), it gets a little annoying to hear it from an outsider since you seem not to realize that quite a few Americans don't "hate" poor people and disagree with just about everything this country does. And we're not shy about pointing it out.
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby gt1370a » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 18:31:09

I'll tell you why Americans hate poor people. This is the land of opportunity. You have to be unimaginably goddam lazy and stupid not to be able to make a comfortable living here. And then people who are actually that lazy and stupid expect the goverment (funded by the rest of us) to bail them out every time they fuck up. "I didn't study in high school, raise the minimum wage so I can pay my cable bill!" "I was too stupid to evacuate the Keys even after I saw what happened in New Orleans, give me food and shelter!" I resent that. I really resent the lack of personal responsibility and the sense of entitlement that people feel. Maybe hate is too strong a word. But I resent it, and I fear the implications that that has when resources become scarce and times get tough.

By the way, the "average" person living below the poverty line in this country still has: a vehicle, a residence, cable TV, and air conditioning. I was poor enough in college that I wore a pair of shoes that my mexican neighbor threw away because they were better than the ones I had, although I never starved or anything. So, it's not like I'm exactly Barbara Bush or something, I know what it's like not to have any money. But it's acceptable to be poor if you're a student, nobody looks down on them.
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby thuja » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 20:06:26

we got some poor people haters out there- put out your fist and say yeah! I got mine!
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby nuhax » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 20:49:28

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('gt1370a', 'I')'ll tell you why Americans hate poor people. This is the land of opportunity. You have to be unimaginably goddam lazy and stupid not to be able to make a comfortable living here.


My sentiments exactly...

This got me thinking to a few years back when I was in college. As a working college student I lived on $80/mo groceries, shared a small 1 bedroom with another roomate (I slept on a mattress in the living room) and I had a scooter, not a car, which I drove on surface streets (it was not legal for the freeway) to get to work. By Census standards I was probably "poor". During this period while I was going to school full time (eventually transferring to a respected university) I worked at a fast food joint where I became manager in 4 months while working 40+ hours a week.

It's offensive to me to suggest that I hate the poor. Even the liberal Democrats agreed that the Welfare system was frickin mess and had to be reformed during Clinton's presidency becasue people who claimed to be "poor" were only taking advantage of the system. There are still many people classified as poor who should not be and even those that are are not poor by world standards.

My idea of welfare if you are out of work and have no income:

1. Savings.
2. Sell stuff.
3. Get help from immediate family (mom, dad, brother etc.).
4. Private debt (credit cards, loans).
5. Extended Family (grandparents, uncle etc.)
6. Friends.
7. Organization you are member of (ie church).
8. Other private organizations (Salvation Army etc.)
9. Student loans, school training if you can't get a job.
10. City government programs. (temporary, a few months max)
11. State government programs. (temporary)

There should be no Federal welfare.

As to Calvinism, I think the "protestant work ethic" is a small part of the American history/psyche but much more importantly America is mostly a country of immigrants who were not Calvinist but came here because they were already poor and expected to rely on themselves, not the government, to better their own lives.
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby Vexed » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 21:22:15

Why Americans Hate Welfare
By Robert C. Lieberman

A curious paradox defines the politics of welfare in the United States. On the one hand, we are an extraordinarily generous and forgiving people. In 1998 Americans donated more than $170 billion to charity, and we have proven open to giving just about anyone (even, say, a philandering president) a second chance. Americans are willing, even enthusiastic, supporters of vast social programs aimed at protecting individuals from what Franklin Roosevelt called "the hazards and vicissitudes of life."

On the other hand, Americans are more likely to be poor than citizens of other industrial countries, and American government does less than other advanced nations to shield its citizens from poverty. If we're so generous, just why do Americans hate welfare?

This puzzle is at the heart of Martin Gilens's compelling book, and his answer can be summed up in a word: race. Americans dislike the programs most commonly called "welfare"-- especially Aid to Families with Dependent Children (AFDC) and its successor, Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF)--not because they are too individualistic to believe in public social provision or too self-interested to pay for it, but because they associate these programs with African Americans. Gilens, a Yale political scientist, traces this connection in the public mind to the mid- to late 1960s, when urban violence drew the spotlight of the national media to ghetto poverty...

Why Americans Hate the Welfare System

Why I Don't Hate Why Americans Hate Welfare
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Re: Why do Americans hate poor people?

Postby LadyRuby » Fri 28 Oct 2005, 21:33:56

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('nuhax', 'M')y idea of welfare if you are out of work and have no income:

1. Savings.
2. Sell stuff.
3. Get help from immediate family (mom, dad, brother etc.).
4. Private debt (credit cards, loans).
5. Extended Family (grandparents, uncle etc.)
6. Friends.
7. Organization you are member of (ie church).
8. Other private organizations (Salvation Army etc.)
9. Student loans, school training if you can't get a job.
10. City government programs. (temporary, a few months max)
11. State government programs. (temporary)

There should be no Federal welfare.

As to Calvinism, I think the "protestant work ethic" is a small part of the American history/psyche but much more importantly America is mostly a country of immigrants who were not Calvinist but came here because they were already poor and expected to rely on themselves, not the government, to better their own lives.


So easy to judge, isn't it, when it's not you. And your story about being a poor college student doesn't fly with me. Weren't we all poor in college? Who cared? We didn't have any responsibilities other than drinking beer!

I have a friend whose husband works in the semiconductor industry. He's one of those immigrants you speak of, born in Eastern Europe, had a dream to come to the U.S., got an engineering degree here, worked successfully as an engineer in the semiconductor industry for many years but in his late 40s the floor fell from under his feet. He's an engineer, but because of various plant closings in his industry (work moved offshore) he's been laid off due to division closing about 5 times in the last 8 years. They have two children (she has one from a previous marriage), and he has two children from a previous marriage. He pays about $1,000/month in child support (as he should) but when he's unemployed and paying out $1,000/month for child support, his two kids living with him suffer.

My friend, who has a college degree, works full-time as a teachers assistant and make about $800/month, of which she has to pay about $300/month for health insurance for her two kids, so lately their take home income has been about $500/month.

My friend makes diddly squat, though she works full-time in one of the toughest and most important jobs (public education), and her husband hasn't been a good financial provider since his industry has collapsed, he has child support payments, and he hasn't gotten much other work.

So does she leave him and hope for a better financial provider and someone who doesn't have to pay child support? Is this the American way? Their family has helped them but family, unless they are very wealthy, can only help so much. So far they've received no government/public assistance (other than free school lunches for their kids), although she's scoped out food banks (her husband is horrified at the idea of accepting food from a food bank...).

Anyway, there are poor among us even if they don't look like us. For many poor, asking for help is excrutiating.

I've talked to her about this potential global financial collapse that may come and for her, it will be just what she's already been expereincing. Maybe better because she finally won't be the only one having to eat potatotes since they can't afford meat.

Anyway, try to have a little more empathy for those who may have had hard times. We may all be there before you know it. Don't assume you're better than them.
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