I think I finally understand what you are saying, and I agree wholeheartedly. LEADERSHIP we need, in the benevolent direction! Maybe I am so cynical about the nature of our politicians, that the thought of a good one never entered my mind.
Given a REAL leader, to tell the ugly truth, we might have a chance. It would be a massive task to re-educate the entire society. I can hear it now:
(rant on)
"My fellow Americans, (dramatic pause), I come before you today with a heavy heart, to tell you that everything you were taught was worthwhile and important is just BS. All the media output is nonsense, and everything you learned in school besides the 3 R's was BS, too. Buying more stuff will NOT give you self esteem, nor a better social or sex life. No, buying more stuff will just make you deeper in debt. Conspicuous comsumption by massive use of credit is not "smart", it is in fact a sucker play, with you being the sucker. "
(Okay, sarcastic rant off.) YES! That all needs to permeate the American consciousness. Granted, I know a great leader can work wonders, particularly if there is an obvious issue, such as a war to fight, a race to the moon, or a nation to be supplied with electricity for the first time. I see this as much harder to do, because, as above, you are really going to have to tell people that they are completely wrong-headed, and that they were foolish enough to be suckered into getting where they are now.
It is obvious that you are working hard on this, and have given it much clear thought. I wish to God that it could happen. I have been talking to people for 35 years about this, and got few, if any, takers. I did all I could, including putting my job on the line, to convince managers at GM and other auto companies that we needed smaller, more practical vehicles, to no avail. (Those managers are now looking for work.)
I have tried to lead by example in a farming community, and can't get farmers to clean and paint equipment, which would save them money, and cost my repair shop a lot of business! Talk about bone-headed! Farmers are also into the "throwaway society", going deeper into debt each year to have shiny looking stuff--until last year. NOW, they are just as lost as a short dog in tall grass. Can't get more credit, and don't know what to do.
My wife wanted me to get her a Big Mac on my way home last week. I showed her a video of a 4 YEAR OLD McDonald's cheeseburger, that has not decayed in any way! (It was on a thread here at PO.) She watched it, but she wanted her greaseburger anyway... I guess I have the curse of Cassandra. Can't convince anyone of what is good for them.
I wish you all the luck in the world achieving what you have set out to do, but with my track record, I won't be a lot of help with the strategy.

edit to add--That's probably why I'm on this board, preaching to the choir, as it were, since they already believe.
Local fix-it guy..