[Heineken]

So here I am single again, and 53. I'm in very good physical shape, however, and look ten years younger than my age.

I have money, and there are millions of attractive but desperately poor women the world 'round.

Meeting and coping with American women can be extremely difficult. They tend to have unreasonable or unfair expectations and demands. They tend to hold my age against me and my difficult history.

Sometimes I think, why don't I just fly to one of those "developing" countries, hang out, and meet and carefully court an innocent, gentle, HIV-free native, marry her and bring her back to the farm. Say a $10,000 operation.

Crazy? Maybe.

What would be the best countries? Any race is fine. Obviously the things to avoid are golddiggers, getting murdered or ripped off, etc. Potentially hazardous.

[PenultimateManStanding]

So, ah, Heineken, what age range are you aiming for? There are loads of women in their forties who can't find a husband. Probably some very nice goodhearted ones, too.

[Revi]

I think you should check out the local area first, Heineken. I have seen a lot of people go that route, and they ended up divorced anyway. The cultural difference is huge. You will never know if the girl married you because she loves you or for the green card.

[Jotapay]

This is my second time thinking this through.

Czech, Slovak and Hungarian girls are particularly amazing actually. Check them out.

Almost any woman besides a northern Euro (excluding Russia) or American white woman will be great. Asian, Black and Hispanic women are particularly traditional and pleasant to get along with (with a few small gotchas). Many white women are completely unrealistic and live in some sort of fantasy world.

I've been in serious relationships with Hispanic and Asian women and they was much more grounded and normal than most relationships with American white girls.

[mos6507]

From what I've heard, the women move here and are nice at first but then they assimilate and become just like any other american women. They learn that they can dump your ass and take half your assets. Then there is no reason to keep the marriage going. Don't do it.

[Ludi]

There are nice American women! Really there are!

[PenultimateManStanding]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Revi', 'Y')ou will never know if the girl married you because she loves you or for the green card.

[Jotapay]

I hate to say it, but I've only met a small handful of women I could trust. Definitely less than 10 my whole life. The number of trustworthy men don't overwhelm them, but probably double their number.

[Ludi]

How many guys in their 50s do you know who can walk on their hands?



Heineken is a babe.

[PenultimateManStanding]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ludi', 'H')ow many guys in their 50s do you know who can walk on their hands?



Heineken is a babe.

[Byron100]

Ahh...this brings to mind my journey to South America back in the late 80's. 10 countries, 10 weeks, and a whole continent littered with broken hearts...LOL. I was 21 years old, thin, blond hair and blue eyes...and them girls threw themselves on me like you wouldn't believe...LOL

And there was this Australian girl who took a liking to me in Rio...

Ahh...those were the days.

Would I think of doing such a thing now, if I was suddenly single?

I would say not. Just too many variables that have the potential to spell disaster. Language difficulties, cultural barriers, lack of common interests, etc...all of these are not generally conductive to long-term relationships.

My advice to you would be to just be "on the lookout" so to speak, and meet as many individuals as you can, as opposed to going about on a planned mission to bring home a new wife.

And my real advice to you is to make every effort to travel for a while. If you could have someone take care of your mother for a spell (your brother perhaps??), I'd highly recommend that you take an extended road trip around the USA. Go visit Yosemite - and be sure to stay in the tent cabins at 9000 feet, where you get to have fresh trout in a group tent with folks from all walks of life. Take a ferry across Lake Michigan. Go visit a sustainable community or 2. Go chase a hurricane or 2. Have an adventure.

The reason I'm suggesting this is that it's more important to put yourself in situations where a chance encounter is probable, if not likely...I've met so many amazing, interesting people doing things such I've described above (except for the hurricanes...LOL). And I think there's someone out there that could make a great fit for you - you Just Never Know.

To put it more simply, if you try to "force" a relationship, it most likely will not be the real deal. Being single is better, IMO. However, if you make a "wish" for a relationship in your head, but don't make it your primary, everyday objective, then the door is open for that chance encounter that so often results in life-long marriages, soul mates, etc. But those have to "happen"...those are the kinds of things that come looking for you, as opposed to the other way around. You do, however, increase your odds greatly by getting out there and having a chance to meet people.

But then again, those Brazilians are mighty sweet.

[Ludi]

One of my husband's friends picked up a young Romanian wife (he was in his 40s at the time, she in her 20s, I think) when he was working over there. They seem to be making a go of it.

I think the mail order bride thing is just a bad idea. You need to be able to meet someone and at least get to know them a little bit before making the commitment.

The various online dating service things seem to be an easy way to meet folks. I tried one briefly when I was going through kind of a weird phase of wanting to have a social life. They are better for dating than meeting friends, though I did meet a couple straight ladies. The nicest lady I met was gay and looking for a girlfriend, so that didn't work out too well because I am faithful to my husband. I still feel bad about it because I think I confused her. I think I did have a little crush on her. She was a really great singer.

[bratticus]

[pedalling_faster]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Heineken', 'S')o here I am single again, and 53. I'm in very good physical shape, however, and look ten years younger than my age.

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Meeting and coping with American women can be extremely difficult. They tend to have unreasonable or unfair expectations and demands.

[Ferretlover]

HHHmmm... Maybe whoever you consider as a possible mate should be checked out by a PO.com committee first--just to make sure she is good enough!!

[JJ]

I married a filipina. She is better educated than I and believes in PO, etc. We have been very happily married for 15 years; we are almost the same age. However, immigration is a nightmare.

[Jotapay]

Having joked around, there is no way in hell I'd do a mail order bride. I've traveled around and done enough to know that trust is earned and not given blindly.

Having said that, I would go for a long vacation in the Czech republic after you've contacted some women there and start with that. Czech women are amazing.

[hardtootell]

Here's my opinion- for what its worth

First of all - LOVE- is just a romantic word for NEED.
All relationships are transactional at some level. I am pretty sure you have few illusions about that.

Edit- All women are rational.

If it were me, the first country I'd head for would be the Ukraine. I'd also consider, the UK and Iceland- might get better value there

Please blog your adventures somewhere. It would make great reading!

[SpringCreekFarm]

www.greensingles.com

[PenultimateManStanding]

You probably didn't think I heard
But I did
You said that love was just
a four letter word


-Joan Baez