[WildRose]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ludi', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('BigTex', '
')
I think in some ways situational depression (that brought on by life events and traumas), might be more difficult to deal with because it is outside of oneself and therefore in some ways more "out of control."

[Ludi]

Wildrose, I'm not at all convinced of my ability to weather difficult times. I seem to have very little reserves, and get worn down quickly by any kind of stress or fatigue. I'm also afraid I'm not very good at dealing with others when they are deeply depressed (such as my sister). I'm quite ashamed of this, and wish I were better at it. Though I empathize very much with people who are depressed, at the same time I have very little patience with people who can't or won't learn to manage or live with their illness, and who continue the cycle of overdoing it and then crashing (typical behavior of bipolars I guess), even though I know this is possibly merely a symptom of their illness. So I get frustrated and short-tempered. I'm glad your brother is able to help other people, he must be a very patient and empathic person.

[WildRose]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ludi', 'W')ildrose, I'm not at all convinced of my ability to weather difficult times. I seem to have very little reserves, and get worn down quickly by any kind of stress or fatigue. I'm also afraid I'm not very good at dealing with others when they are deeply depressed (such as my sister). I'm quite ashamed of this, and wish I were better at it. Though I empathize very much with people who are depressed, at the same time I have very little patience with people who can't or won't learn to manage or live with their illness, and who continue the cycle of overdoing it and then crashing (typical behavior of bipolars I guess), even though I know this is possibly merely a symptom of their illness. So I get frustrated and short-tempered. I'm glad your brother is able to help other people, he must be a very patient and empathic person.

[Ludi]

Thank you, Wildrose.

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('WildRose', ' ')I'm sure we could all benefit from some counseling in this regard.

[WildRose]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ludi', 'T')hank you, Wildrose.

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('WildRose', ' ')I'm sure we could all benefit from some counseling in this regard.

[Ludi]

The insight I finally gained was that I have to accept them on their own terms, that I can't make them into the people I want them to be, nor would I want them to try to make me into the person they want me to be. So I acceded to the way things are, but, with the proviso (my agreement with myself) that I wouldn't allow myself to be "squashed" but would be myself around them to the best of my ability. So far, it's going ok, nothing weird has happened in awhile.

[threadbear]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ludi', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('BigTex', '
')Ludi, I'm only focusing on you because you often talk about how you have had a pretty easy life, but I don't really think you have, though obviously there is a lot to be said for never having had to skip a meal because there wasn't any food.

[BigTex]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ludi', 'W')ildrose, I'm not at all convinced of my ability to weather difficult times. I seem to have very little reserves, and get worn down quickly by any kind of stress or fatigue. I'm also afraid I'm not very good at dealing with others when they are deeply depressed (such as my sister). I'm quite ashamed of this, and wish I were better at it. Though I empathize very much with people who are depressed, at the same time I have very little patience with people who can't or won't learn to manage or live with their illness, and who continue the cycle of overdoing it and then crashing (typical behavior of bipolars I guess), even though I know this is possibly merely a symptom of their illness. So I get frustrated and short-tempered. I'm glad your brother is able to help other people, he must be a very patient and empathic person.

[BigTex]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('PrairieMule', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Hagakure_Leofman', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('BigTex', 'W')hen trying to navigate choppy seas, the question is what the ideal port would look like. For many, the ideal port is simply a comfortable delusion that explains hardship in terms that provides wholeness or meaning to the struggle.

For others, the ideal port is something like a real solution to the root cause of the problem of choppy seas. These people don't want to escape reality, they want to change reality so that it doesn't need to be escaped.

[Ludi]

Thanks Big Tex.

[hironegro]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ludi', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('mos6507', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ludi', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('BigTex', '
')Has your life been easy psychologically?

[Ludi]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('hironegro', '
')Aren't you afraid of other people judging you?

[mystiek]

Ludi, anyone who would "judge" you is showing their ignorance! Kudos that you post about your condition-it should be viewed no different than if you were posting about "high blood pressure", "diabetes" ,etc. People need to understand that conditions such as depression, etc. has to do with chemical imbalances in the brain. The brain is an organ, just as the pancreas and heart is too. You contribute so much to this web site and by being open about bipolar may help someone to recognize the symptoms and seek help if needed.

[Ludi]

Thank you, mystiek.

[aldente]

To stay on topic, Death must be directly related to Time.
Do a Wiki search on Death, and Time will inevitably show up:


I guess we could establish with a good certainty that the majority of our fellow humans are afraid of death.




What if death would not be subject to fear? I bettja depression would be finally recoginzed as a primarily subconcious 'fear of death' syndrome.

[threadbear]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Hagakure_Leofman', 'A')nd then there is Freud's theory of depression as repressed anger.

...anger is a more useful emotion than despair.