by peaker_2005 » Sun 30 Mar 2008, 22:01:22
I'm not a no-offspring person, there's a deep-seated desire to have kids somewhere inside, but I do wish all those who have chosen this path well.
I have however decided definitely on "no more than replacement". Any more than two kids is insane anyway.
As for the "I'm my dad" thing, I never really knew my dad, but my grandfather was heavily involved in my earlier life, and I'm seeing parts of him in me already at age 22. He was far from perfect, but there were a lot of good points about him.
As an example, my grandfather was disappointed at mum having me so young (not that alot could be done about it), but he backed her anyway so that she could at least finish year 10. And when she went to TAFE, he again supported her by being there when he could (at this point he was living in Gosford, so he couldn't be around as much as he probably would have liked).
I hope eventually I pick up his pain tolerance threshold. He was able to put up with a LOT of pain and hardly whined. He'd bring it up, but wouldn't go on and on about it like my nan seems to. Right to the end he was behind my mum, in his later years, when he couldn't help her physically, he helped financially.
Mum has a lot of him in her too.
"Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so." - Douglas Adams