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Re: Marriage

Postby PenultimateManStanding » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 13:34:25

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Shannymara', '
')It's good for him as long as it doesn't kill me or make me insane, right? I think not having a (loving and responsible) mother is worse than having amicably divorced parents.
ahem, doesn't sound like you are off to a fresh start. I'd say try not to be so complicated, but that's like telling Golem to try not to be so inscrutable or telling me to get the wax out of my ears. Good luck and do your best.
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Re: Marriage

Postby PenultimateManStanding » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 14:14:05

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('PenultimateManStanding', ' ')... I'd say try not to be so complicated, but that's like telling Golem to try not to be so inscrutable or telling me to get the wax out of my ears. Good luck and do your best.
Inscrutable? Pull up a chair PMS...here is what I am servin' Nothing dark and mysterious about the EM field... Just because you can't see it doesn't mean it is not there and changing... Wax in your ears...would that be BEE's Wax?
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Re: Marriage

Postby Pops » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 14:33:59

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('gg3', 'W')hen you put a guy with a guy, they look at each other and say "Hey, you make a pretty good-looking baboon!" "Yeah, you too!" "OK, last one to get their clothes off is a rotten egg!"

That cracked me up! I’ve never thought of it but I can see how it would be true.

The first thing I would mention is to be prepared to really change somewhere between 25 and 35. Don’t know what it is but that is the age range lots of folks seem to come to terms with growing up and find their true path and many times they look at their spouse and wonder what they were thinking.
Realize we are all spoiled, no one is perfect, and after a time some of the blush fades.

Second, is to find a person who compliments your personality. I am a smartass and Susan is a sweetheart for example. :)

Third, just do what you do and the right person will come along. You aren’t going to find a homesteader girl cruising the mall

Fourth, Mule is right about daughters. I was raised around more women than men, and have always been the door holding type, but daughters change everything; at least they did for me.

And finally, remember to keep everyone on the inside of your front door your friend because not everyone on the other side is.


Oh yea, 28 years here.
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Re: Marriage

Postby Nicholai » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 15:59:02

I tried to talk about PO in my English class the other day. We've been reading Ishmael and I thought it would be appropriate to incorporate it into our class discussion.

There's a girl in my class who's fairly good looking and I've wanted to ask her out for the last while, so I waited to see her reaction in particular.

No one spoke up immediately so we moved on to Shakespeare. The Prof went on for several minutes before finally going to the class for questions and answers. He pointed to this particular girl and asked her, 'What could you expect if you were to create a modern Shakespearian play?'

I had never heard her speak in class before so I was eager for a response.

She was slightly baffled by the question and responded accordingly, 'Well, Shakespeare is pretty old so I don't think you would use technology and stuff.'

.......sigh.......
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Re: Marriage

Postby threadbear » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 16:01:16

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Hmmm. I don't go on dates with men so I don't know from experience but how can you say something like that and expect to NOT come across as a sexist bitch? As if you've seen a cross section of all Canadian men. Please watch what you say as it erodes your credibility.


My problem isn't as gender biased as you might think. Read through the thread. And if I'm a sexist bitch, it's aimed squarely at both sexes. I have contempt for people who are preoccupied with consumption. . When you're on a first date with a man, and he wants a total rundown of what you're worth, they're usually looking for someone who can keep up with them at the mall, or support them. It's a turn off.

And I don't know how old you are, but trust me, boomer Canadian men, are, for the most part, a complete total waste of time. Had I not met my American husband and his friends I wouldn't have known other types of men existed, AND that, in Canada, it's partly culturally based.
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Re: Marriage

Postby Nicholai » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 16:05:29

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'A')ND that, in Canada, it's partly culturally based.


Canada...culture? I'm sorry Mam but those are two contradictory terms.
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Re: Marriage

Postby PenultimateManStanding » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 19:05:35

My dad was Canadian. I really do miss him. Life is loss.
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Re: Marriage

Postby SpringCreekFarm » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 19:20:24

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('threadbear', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('SpringCreekFarm', '
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Hmmm. I don't go on dates with men so I don't know from experience but how can you say something like that and expect to NOT come across as a sexist bitch? As if you've seen a cross section of all Canadian men. Please watch what you say as it erodes your credibility.


My problem isn't as gender biased as you might think. Read through the thread. And if I'm a sexist bitch, it's aimed squarely at both sexes. I have contempt for people who are preoccupied with consumption. . When you're on a first date with a man, and he wants a total rundown of what you're worth, they're usually looking for someone who can keep up with them at the mall, or support them. It's a turn off.

And I don't know how old you are, but trust me, boomer Canadian men, are, for the most part, a complete total waste of time. Had I not met my American husband and his friends I wouldn't have known other types of men existed, AND that, in Canada, it's partly culturally based.


Oh yea? I have read through the thread and all I'm saying is that I take offense to comments that say "Canadian" or "American" or "Jewish" or "whatever" (men, women, people ) are something or other ( good, bad, whatever ). To me, this kind of bigotry is something I won't always stand for.

Bigotry hid well behind so-called first hand experience is still bigotry and makes you appear shallow.

Look, not all Canadian men are going to want to know your net worth on the first date. And what is wrong with knowing about your date? What are peoples supposed to talk about on the first date?

I've been on a few first dates and I ask ( and listen ) to my date because I want to get to know them. I don't care what a person makes and I, in fact, don't want to know. IF the relationship goes far enough, that stuff will become known. To be fair toward your position, I would be offended if I were asked about my personal finances on the first, second or third date.

Oh, and I said that when you make comments like that, you come across as a sexist bitch. I didn't call you that per se as I don't know you from a hill of beans. I just wanted to clarify that as I also don't like getting into name calling.
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Re: Marriage

Postby SpringCreekFarm » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 19:29:37

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Nicholai', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'A')ND that, in Canada, it's partly culturally based.


Canada...culture? I'm sorry Mam but those are two contradictory terms.


I'm going to assume you're kidding......

There is a lot of cultural diversity in Canada. It is multicultural country as opposed to a melting pot like the US.

Spend some time in the larger Canadian cities and you'll see it. Go to the west or east coast and you'll see it. Go to "middle of nowhere" Ontario you'll see it there too.
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Re: Marriage

Postby PenultimateManStanding » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 19:30:04

Ow, nobody calls threadbear a sexist bitch without hurting me too.
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Re: Marriage

Postby PenultimateManStanding » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 19:51:06

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Shannymara', '
')Being complicated and hormonal is a PITA.
Make it happen, Shanny. Just do it.
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Re: Marriage

Postby frankthetank » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 21:11:56

PMS-

You can babysit whenever! I've never been around babies before and the transistion hasn't been easy. Our son has had severe GERD and it makes him cry often, some days are better...some not good. I know he'll outgrow this, so that makes me stay positive. Other then that he is a very good baby, smiles and laughs. Very cute too. I'm trying to get him to walk, but he is not even 3 months...! Everyone tells me it only gets better/first year is the worse. I look forward to him talking (he's become VERY vocal the last 2 weeks...). My sister went through the same situation with her little girl and now she is like a totally different baby (1 year old now).

POPS-

I grew up with my mom and 4 sisters (brothers are older/sisters younger). I used to have dresses put on me (I have pictures to prove it). I've always found it easier to talk to women then men, and i m guessing the reason why was my childhood.
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Re: Marriage

Postby kabu » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 23:09:37

Nicholai... virgin?

Yeah, at your age it's pretty much a given that you haven't given marriage much thought, but the question is, do you still picture yourself humping that "fairly good looking" girl even though she's probably not going to be an English major?

Too bad your PO knowledge won't get your foot in that door. Well shit, guess you'll just have to wait.
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Re: Marriage

Postby cynthia » Sat 17 Nov 2007, 23:51:11

I am lucky and pleased to have my partner of 20 plus years. We finally married last week in a gesture of our continued love and commitment and also to benefit from the rules/laws married people enjoy in Oregon. Our adult children were our witnesses and we'll have a party next summer for friends and family. The timing was right and so far so good. :-D

Shanny, best wishes on your reconciliation. What works for us is sharing values and laughing a lot. Also sharing interests and maintaining separate ones as well.
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Re: Marriage

Postby WildRose » Sun 18 Nov 2007, 01:54:05

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('frankthetank', ' ')I've never been around babies before and the transistion hasn't been easy. Our son has had severe GERD and it makes him cry often, some days are better...some not good. I know he'll outgrow this, so that makes me stay positive. Other then that he is a very good baby, smiles and laughs. Very cute too. I'm trying to get him to walk, but he is not even 3 months...! Everyone tells me it only gets better/first year is the worse. I look forward to him talking (he's become VERY vocal the last 2 weeks...). My sister went through the same situation with her little girl and now she is like a totally different baby (1 year old now).


Oh, that's difficult, especially when it's your first baby. Our firstborn was very colicky. We called her our little angel by day and little devil by night, because she cried from 5 pm to midnight daily and then slept most of the day because she tired herself out from the crying. We were both really patient with her, though, and let each other take breaks whenever we needed them. I remember that we basically couldn't visit with anyone during the evening for the first few months of her life.

Hang in there. It will soon get better. Your little guy will soon learn to crawl and walk and talk, and you'll have such a lot of fun with him. Get ready to take him places and watch with wonder as you see the world through his eyes.
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