by TWilliam » Fri 23 Mar 2007, 18:39:04
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('threadbear', 'T')hanks Twilliam. But I see it a little differently. If anything has lifted burdens, it's the realization that I'm not the author of my own destiny. I feel like a contributing writer in a screen play that I have limited control over. I had a monumentally horrifying adolescance and earlyadulthood and at the time, considered it, "all my fault". Of course I co-authored that screamplay, but I WAS also a victim of circumstance. Most people tend to blame themselves too much, when they should ease up on themselves AND others. Compassion is absolutely key.
I'm still working on my temper. I can be a real beast when I'm angry. Not mean, just goddawfully cranky and snarky.
Now it's your turn--How is your life going and to what do you attribute your success/failure? What part of the Secret has actually worked for you?
I agree threadbear that we may have little control over the circumstances that arise in our lives.
One of the things that I believe is often misunderstood with regard to the various schools of thought regarding "self-determination" is that they are not so much saying that we control the circumstances of our lives/destinies in an outward, physical sense. Rather, what we do have
absolute control over is
how we choose to respond to those circumstances. And those choices determine whether we consign ourselves to being a victim of the vicissitudes of fate or persevere in pursuing our dreams in spite of them. That, imo, is the type of mastery referred to when they speak of being "master of one's destiny".
And yet I find it interesting that another common trait of people that consider themselves truly successful is that they accept 100% responsibility for everything that occurs in their lives,
negative as well as positive. A different perspective than
blaming oneself I suspect; one that is a function of maturity, so of course we tend to see ourselves as
victims to outside events, rather than
authors of our experience, until we grow into a broader perspective.
Regarding my own life... well now... success/failure are certainly relative things, wouldn't you agree? If you're measuring based on the capitalist "American Dream" yardstick, I would most likely not be considered "successful", which I have no problem with as acquisition for it's own sake has never been a motivating force in my life. But there are less tangible scales on which I would consider myself quite successful. The key element for me is that I accept full responsibility for my life as it is, which I suppose one could say is "the part of 'The Secret' that works" for me (hardly a revelation; the film's fundamental premise is something I've understood for years).
"It means buckle your seatbelt, Dorothy, because Kansas? Is goin' bye-bye... "