by Vexed » Sun 22 Oct 2006, 04:03:12
I read this thread right up to your post Thuja, and I have to say it slapped me across the head.
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('thuja', 'S')o how about an example. A young family purchases a very modest 220,000$ home out West somewhere. Its about 1300 square feet and has 3 bedrooms and 1.5 bathrooms. They have saved up 20,000$ so they have a 200,000$ mortgage. With mortgage insurance, homeowners insurance and property taxes, they will pay about 1500$ a month. Utilities and phone costs another 300 a month on average. Food costs about 600$ a month, and they only have one car. The car payment is 250 $ a month. Dad and mom both went to college and have 4 year degrees. They also have 50,000$ in school debt. Thats another 300 a month for the next 10 years. There are daycare costs of 600$ a month while both parents work (and that is a low estimate). They want to put aside money for retirement and try to put aside 400$ a month. They will need 150$ a month for gasoline. Finally they need at least 500$ a month for miscelaneous expendables. This includes when the car breaks down, Christmas presents, haircuts, new clothes, books for the kids, dinner out twice a month, etc. So here's the whole tab.
Mortgage+insurance/taxes= 1500$
Utilities= 300$
Food= 600$
Car payment= 250$
School debt= 300$
Daycare= 600$
Retirement= 400$
Gas for car= 150$
Miscellaneous= 500$
Total= 4600$
With taxes they need to have about 5800$ gross to come up with 4600 net. Lets round up to 6000 $ net a month and say they need about 72,000$ a year to live a very modest middle class life. We haven't even mentioned plasma TVs, vacations, trips to the parents on the other coast, etc.
Both need to earn about 36,000 a year. There's a number of jobs that earn more than that but most require post graduate degrees. Going back to school for one of them would cripple them with debt while they are trying to "get ahead". And if one of them gets sick, injured or disabled, its lights out...head to bankruptcy court.
ClubofRomeII...please read the Two Parent Trap. 35 years ago, a family could survive on the wages of one bread earner- the Dad. Today, its nearly impossible to survive on two incomes. Don't talk to me about electronic gadgets...you haven't thought it through.
How about a different example. My numbers.
Mortgage+insurance/taxes=
We rent / 800$ month
-one day my wife and I will build the home we want.
Utilities= 50$
Food= 400$
Car payment= 0$
-we don't buy cars unless we can pay cash
School debt= 150$
Daycare= 0$
-We will have kids when we have time for them, and something
to teach them worth learning. Right now we are focusing on
developing ourselves. Skills. Talents. Achieving goals.
Retirement= 0$
-Whatever we have left at the end of each month goes into
savings.
Gas for car= 200-500$
-Depends on which of our cars we drive

I love my new sports
car but its a gas guzzler.
Miscellaneous= 500$
-The family you are talking about, if they are average Americans,
probably spend most of their Misc. cash paying credit card
interest. My wife and I have never had credit cards. We fear
them. When we first met both of us could name more thrift store
chains than department store chains.
Total= 2100-2400 per month$
By putting ourselves in a position where we are only spending $1200 per person per month, we have watched our savings and investments grow substantially.
I am not saying: "I got mine."
I am saying my wife and I spent a lot of time thinking about what we wanted and the best way to get there. We knew there would be periods where we would work 15 hour days and eat Ramen. We knew our path would be a lot harder if we buried ourselves in a huge mortgage, or had kids right off the bat.
Now, because of our planning, we have much more control of our lives. This does not mean that I look down on folks experiencing tough times. I have argued both side of this issue, and I do believe "the system" has a great deal to do with the decay of the middle class dream. My grandfather raised 5 kids solely on his paycheck, and they lacked nothing essential.
But the example you give Thuja is a bit different in my head.
It reminds me of too many folks I know personally who really haven't taken any responsibility for their actions of late. I have never felt the world owed me anything. Many folks I know, do. They don't have a clue how blessed they are.
I have friends who have bought homes they couldn't afford because they were competing with peers.
I have friends who have decided to have kids before they were anywhere close to being able to financially support them.
They really feel they deserve to have things work out for them. I hope things do work out for them.
But, in the cases when I have watched things go sour, they almost always seem to find someone or something else to blame. They never look in the mirror. Because if they were looking in the mirror, and being honest with themselves, they would have to face the truth.
This is the world we live in. Prepare for it.