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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby CeeCee » Sun 04 Sep 2005, 08:01:02

Joe,
If you like, I could guide you through the steps of setting up a 'post peak' winter school, which focuses on the skills that people need for a post peak world, and draws upon the knowledge that already exists in your local community/city/suburb etc. The concept is money-free- i.e. all tutors give their time freely and students don't pay to attend, except where there needs to be some reimbursement for materials.

This could give you a sense of purpose and of doing something to prepare, not only for yourself but also for many other people. Even if you don't think that other people are ready to face peak oil, you could still run a winter school which focuses on "Back to Basics Living" or "Sustainable Living" or similar, because the content is pretty much the same.

You don't need money to set one up, but you do need a computer to organise and email your timetables, a telephone so that you can phone people and they can phone you, access to a community newsletter, noticeboard or newspaper for free advertising of the event, and it helps if you have access to a venue such as a community hall, although that isn't absolutely necessary either. The most important thing you need is passion to make it work- if you have that it will work.
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http://www.homepages.globe.net.nz/ceeceegl/winterschool/karameawinterschool.html
I would be at the other end of email to talk you through it, if you'd like to try it. I'll be running another summer school in the last 2 weeks of January (if that would be a good time for a northen hemisphere wnter school).

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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Joe0Bloggs » Mon 05 Sep 2005, 13:56:06

I would like to find or raise some PO-aware people before I try something like that...

Haven't really convinced anybody yet... I've only raised the subject with my family and one or two friends. Actually once I tried to do a presentation to a whole class, don't think I had any converts. I won't know even if I did, I'm not in contact with them anymore! Haven't had much positive reaction so far... I'm also afraid that if I do manage to convince someone (s)he'll go into a depressed funk like me and I don't want to be responsible for that!

I think I may be close to having my first convert...
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Heineken » Mon 05 Sep 2005, 14:42:22

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ludi', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Heineken', 'O')ur society and its individuals need to take big, radical steps now, Ludi, or a revolution or anything else we do will come too late. Baby steps won't cut it.


What do you suggest, Heineken? What big steps have you taken? Start a new thread on this, if you would.


I'm not sure this warrants a new thread, Ludi, but here are some behaviors and lifestyle choices of mine that relate in a positive way to the problems of PO and the environment:

1. Having no children (a biggie).
2. Buying and saving 25 acres, where I now live, from mindless development and trashing.
3. Heating my place entirely with wood from my own land.
4. Growing a lot of my own food, and in a semi-organic way.
5. Voting for the "greenest" candidate in every election (slim pickings, of course).
6. Telling everyone I know about PO and our environmental woes.
7. Reading extensively on both subjects in item 6 above.
8. Consuming as little as possible.
9. Teleworking. Most days, I don't even get into my 12-year-old vehicle.
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Heineken » Mon 05 Sep 2005, 14:48:40

P.S. to Joe, Ludi, and others:

Some people get depressed and anxious about PO (and the environment). I went through that stage, but now, as some of my earlier posts indicate, I've arrived at the stage of ANGER and OUTRAGE, where I (for better or worse) have little patience for half-measures and saccharine assurances. If I could push a magic button and make Hugo (or Cesar, now deceased) Chavez or Fidel Castro the U.S. president instead of the boy-emperor Bush, I'd do so without hesitating.
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Ludi » Mon 05 Sep 2005, 14:57:25

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I'm not sure this warrants a new thread, Ludi, but here are some steps I have taken regarding PO and the environment:

1. Having no children (a biggie).
2. Buying and saving 25 acres, where I now live, from mindless development and trashing.
3. Heating my place entirely with wood from my own land.
4. Growing a lot of my own food, and in a semi-organic way.
5. Voting for the "greenest" candidate in every election (slim pickings, of course).
6. Telling everyone I know about PO and our environmental woes.
7. Reading extensively on both subjects in item 6 above.
8. Consuming as little as possible.
9. Teleworking. Most days, I don't even get into my 12-year-old vehicle.


I'm also doing all of those things, except teleworking. Since I make things for a living, working for myself, I guess I do "Fed-ex working." Oh, and I have 20 acres, not 25. :)

I see all those things as small steps, not big ones. Certainly not a revolution. Do you see these things as truly "revolutionary?" Not saying these aren't good things, just saying I think they are incremental steps, not a revolution.
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Heineken » Mon 05 Sep 2005, 15:05:42

They are small steps only because enough people aren't taking them, Ludi. The revolution would consist of institutionalizing some of these measures. I admit that I haven't a clue as to how to do that---that's politics---also, that I don't want to get my head chopped off. But that doesn't make me any less angry. I suppose that if a Chavez-like movement started in this country, I would be willing to join it at personal risk to myself. Basically, though, I think the situation is hopeless. Which is why my signature reads,
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Ludi » Mon 05 Sep 2005, 15:13:18

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Heineken', ' ') The revolution would consist of institutionalizing some of these measures. ,


Oh dear, it wouldn't be much of a revolution if it were institutionalized... :(

I'm not big on top-down solutions, myself.
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby uNkNowN ElEmEnt » Mon 05 Sep 2005, 17:19:34

I'm with Ludi in more ways than one. Balance is essential. if you spend a lot of time with depressing defeatist thoughtsyou need to find things to do that will give you some positives.

If that is hard (being depressed and all) then try finding activities that bring you a sense of peace (not to be confused with the numb flatness most depressives experience before committing suicide). Avoid meditation its not good for depressives if you do want to meditate try channeling the happiest emotions you can generate.

I would also suggest "the feel good mood therapy" its a book on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and goes deeply into what Ludi was talking about with changing your thought patterns. Good luck dude, if you need to talk...
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Heineken » Mon 05 Sep 2005, 22:53:22

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ludi', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Heineken', ' ') The revolution would consist of institutionalizing some of these measures. ,


Oh dear, it wouldn't be much of a revolution if it were institutionalized... :(

I'm not big on top-down solutions, myself.


That's not what I meant by "institutionalizing." By that term I mean making these behaviors common among the populace instead of confined to a few rare nutcases like us. That could happen either from the top down or the bottom up.

Revolution and institutionalization aren't necessarily mutually exclusive, by the way. Revolution merely throws out old institutions and replaces them with new ones that may or may not be different.
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Heineken » Mon 05 Sep 2005, 22:58:59

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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Heineken » Mon 05 Sep 2005, 22:59:21

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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Heineken » Mon 05 Sep 2005, 22:59:38

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('uNkNowN ElEmEnt', 'I')'m with Ludi in more ways than one. Balance is essential. if you spend a lot of time with depressing defeatist thoughtsyou need to find things to do that will give you some positives.

If that is hard (being depressed and all) then try finding activities that bring you a sense of peace (not to be confused with the numb flatness most depressives experience before committing suicide). Avoid meditation its not good for depressives if you do want to meditate try channeling the happiest emotions you can generate.

I would also suggest "the feel good mood therapy" its a book on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and goes deeply into what Ludi was talking about with changing your thought patterns. Good luck dude, if you need to talk...


I've learned to confine my negative feelings about this subject to their own special compartment, which I can enter or leave at will. I think that's a more effective approach than giving my whole sensorium over to that sense of peace, because it preserves my ability to get really riled up about PO. In other words, I don't want to lose my ability to feel strongly (and, if necessary, act strongly) about things I feel strongly about.
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby wildsparrow » Tue 06 Sep 2005, 03:56:10

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Heineken', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Peepers', 'G')et back to helping this young man named Joe, OK?

My advice is to live life enjoyably, yet sustainably. Take up bicycle riding into the countryside. Take transit into the city and walk around, visiting the many cultural attractions. Spend time at musuems and other institutions to learn about human history ...


Oh please. I find this "take a bike ride and relax" approach to this subject totally deluded. It's just one step away from our rulers' head-in-the-sand stance.

To achieve the change that will be needed to avoid even a small part of the huge dieoff that's coming, we need stronger medicine than this. A revolution would be a good first step.


Heineken, you may or may not be right. But the point of this thread is to help Joe, and help him where he is at. Taking action, any action, is better than none at all. I find your tone does not seem to hold any compassion for him or willingness to help him move forward.

The steps you have taken are fantastic. I wish I could do the same. But not all of us can. People have pointed out in other threads on this site that one of the skills we need to survive post-PO is to have good relationships with our neighbours. Well, neighbours are often people we think of as idiots that we have nothing in common with. We are still going to have to get along and help each other to survive. Whatever we think of each other (idiots or not). Why don't we all start doing that here?
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Heineken » Tue 06 Sep 2005, 12:50:27

Maybe I believe in tough love, wildsparrow. Maybe I think joe can learn something from how I have coped emotionally with this issue.
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby uNkNowN ElEmEnt » Tue 06 Sep 2005, 12:59:35

I think it would be helpful to point out that Joe has a medical condition. YOu can't just snap out of a depression and its hard for non-depressives to understand that.

Depressed people can't just make little compartments, that would be their entire brain. there is ususally an underlying condition that hasn't been diagnosed like hypoglycemia or fatigued adrenal glands that doctors won't look for.

Tough love doesn't work for seriously depressed people. Neither does meditation. When I said he should find an activity that can bring him peace I didn't mean that he should try to live in some nirvana like state. No one can do that all the time.

Depressed people have too much of the emotions that get you riled up. We don't need to keep them close or fresh: they never go away.
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Heineken » Tue 06 Sep 2005, 16:34:40

Are you a psychiatrist, a clinical psychologist, a psychiatric R.N., or a licensed clinical social worker, unknown? If yes, I yield to your opinion. If not, I submit that my unprofessional opinion on this matter is just as valid as yours.

The best advice we can give joe is to continue to seek help through a medical professional---preferably, one who is not a drug-pusher (I agree with you on that) and sympathy-hander-outer. I have worked on the edges of the medical field for 27 years (as a medical editor) and know how dangerous well-meant advice from nonprofessionals can be. That is why I have not addressed joe directly in this forum, but modeled for him part of my own emotional journey with PO.
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby wildsparrow » Wed 07 Sep 2005, 00:54:40

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Heineken', 'I') have worked on the edges of the medical field for 27 years (as a medical editor) and know how dangerous well-meant advice from nonprofessionals can be. That is why I have not addressed joe directly in this forum, but modeled for him part of my own emotional journey with PO.


Hmmm, is that what you were trying to do. It sure didn't come across that way.

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Heineken', '
')Oh please. I find this "take a bike ride and relax" approach to this subject totally deluded. It's just one step away from our rulers' head-in-the-sand stance.


Unfortunately it could easily be interpreted as thoughtless insensitivity. I think a guy who is seriously depressed and feeling hopeless about PO could use some encouragement and gentle treatment, not something that felt (to me anyway) like a virtual smack around the head.

Just my opinion.

We're all taking our own journey here along the road of PO awareness. Mine is different to yours and I don't have any more than a pinhole view of where you're at so forgive me if I'm being too critical of you. But I really do think we all need to treat one another gently - Joe is only too aware of the seriousness of the situation, he's not someone you need to shock into a reality check.

Meant in peace. Seriously.
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby uNkNowN ElEmEnt » Wed 07 Sep 2005, 02:23:47

What I do have to offer is training as a critical incident responder and counsellor. I started in 1994 in prisons and in 2000, moved to the Youth Forensic Psychiatric Services, the In-patient Assessment Unit, Maples Adolescent Treatment centre, Crossroads, under the umbrella of the Ministry For Children and Family Development. I also worked with the youth migrant program for the Chinese boat people here on the west coast.

I will not say that my advice is any better than anyone elses as long as they don't down play what a person is feeling. If they can get anything out of anything anyone says whether they are a professional or not I say more power to you. as one of my mottos goes "what ever gets you through the night, is alright!"

But it is important not to come off with the attitude that they should snap out of it. Depression is a very serious condition that should never be minimized or the person feel shamed.
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Re: I just can't cope

Unread postby Heineken » Thu 08 Sep 2005, 23:30:31

That's good enough for me, unknown.

Wildsparrow: Sorry if I offended you. I'm a very outspoken person and have unconventional viewpoints. Both characteristics often rub people the wrong way, as you yourself have experienced.
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