[NEOPO]

Anger is a Gift.
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', '�')��Anyone can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person at the right time, and for the right purpose and in the right way - that is not within everyone's power and that is not easy.”

[threadbear]

Interesting take on the great religions, Raphael.

And the quote from Aristotle is quite striking, Neopo. This is where a certain level of discernment comes in, though, and I'm speaking for myself here. If I'm angry about some underlying issue, I can easily strike out at anything that bares even a slight resemblance to it. Once I'm in fight or flight, I can lose rational perspective. It does beat being depressed, as your quote from Buddha describes. It's a matter of proper channelling and also being able to guage how much "spontaneous" anger others around you can handle.

This is interpersonal and also cultural issue. WASP culture is remarkably uptight, too uptight for my blood. I actually prefer hanging out with people from other cultures, as they seem to be able to blow up in a supportive atmosphere.

Obsession can take effective or self destructive forms. I can think of several self destructive forms.

[NEOPO]

Raph is too weird to live and to rare to die

"There is no moderation in the pursuit of justice"
Who said that?

Well this may explain things abit dear as after 35 years on this planet I finally realize that I am a "piker"
Do ye like dags?

[smallpoxgirl]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('NEOPO', '&')quot;There is no moderation in the pursuit of justice"
Who said that?

[NEOPO]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('smallpoxgirl', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('NEOPO', '&')quot;There is no moderation in the pursuit of justice" Who said that?

[Subjectivist]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ludi', 'I')'m accused of fear mongering when trying to discuss Peak Oil. I'm told alternatives will become practical when oil reaches a certain price, and that there won't be any sudden change, just a gradual decline in supply which will be replaced by alternatives. I'm not seeing any numbers to back that up, but what can I say to the optimists? I wish they were right but I'm not seeing the numbers to back up their claims...

[Ibon]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Subjectivist', ' ')Anyone have a good suggestion or making the mental leap from excessive worry to just enough worry to stay motivated?

[Pops]

Sub, it's is definitely difficult when couples have different points of view. For the most part I see people here saying they - the worrier - give in to the spouse who is less concerned. I've always been lucky that my wife puts up with most of my baloney and goes along with a smile. One of the reasons she finally acquiesced to moving out of CA was that our kids (or kids-in-law) had all enlisted and were out here in the midwest.

That's changed now and there is a new great-grand-baby back in CA - I probably don't need to go into the details but suffice to say we are in a transitional quandry. CA is not a long term solution for me, and being a long distance from her relatives turns out not to be a long term solution for her, so things are in flux.

When a buddy would have relation problems in the past I always opined: "Yeah but does the good outweigh the bad?" If you can't do the things you think should be done then either do the things you can and try to feel good about it or toss in the towel on one or the other.