by mos6507 » Sun 07 Jun 2009, 06:20:14
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')For those of us who have been here for years, what else is there to discuss
Thought I'd start a new thread on the topic of people abandoning the site...
Maybe I'm offbase for thinking this way but the triggerpoint (maybe indirectly at best in Shanny's case after reading MDs last post in the locked thread) seems to have been me pissing off Ludi, which then made AAA want to leave. For the record, it's my opinion that Ludi's emotional outburst to my post is really more of a reflection of her personality than some mortal netiquette sin that I committed, and so this being the third time she reacted this way to what I felt was a legitimate post in the context of the thread, I chose not to fall on my spear anymore on her behalf. I know saying that will cause most to knee-jerk rush to her defense. But let it be known that I can't think of any other member of peakoil.com other than Revi that I had gotten closer to on these boards. We even exchanged real email addresses and names with eachother. But the downside of this is like in any relationship when you get to know eachother better--expectations begin to come into play. The advantage of the anonymity of the internet is that you can say things you never would dare tell someone in person. You can prod them, challenge them, offer them tough love (tell them you look fat in that dress). We're acquaintances, not roommates. The obssessive nature of peakoil.com posting which I and the other most active posters exhibit adds up to the point where we begin to feel like we're all living in MTV's Real World, this collection of misfits, the
rainbow assortment of doomer archetypes all jockying for mindshare. We comment on eachother's threads within a minute of eachother and ride the F5 key. It's like a chatroom. It can feel too close for comfort when someone gets under your nerves. You don't want to leave disputes left hanging unresolved.
Ludi's third tirade against one of my posts caused me to reassess the whole purpose I am here. In the past I said that this board is like a support group. Oftentimes it's not so much enlightenment we're looking for here, but a shoulder to cry on to help you get through this day by day, in lieu of anyone in real life willing to listen. But by and large (and I'm sure people will post their exceptions) doomers don't make very good shoulders to cry on. Someone like Monte would be the posterchild for that. Many a newbie who has come here with visions of ecotopia in their eyes has been rendered suicidal over Monte's idea of a fond welcome. If they aren't overtly obnoxious, their ideologies may be so opposed to your own that you either constantly get involved in flamewars or dump reams and reams of them into the ignore list. When it comes to Ludi, I probably share more of her ideology than most of the others here, but that last 10% of incompatibility becomes an itch that keeps getting scratched until it's a festering wound. And it goes both ways. Not long ago Ludi dragged me kicking and screaming into writing an essay about my vision of doom, after which she said she agreed 100%. Well, apparently not quite 100% after all. Trying to convince anyone and everyone to see doom exactly your own way is an exercise in futility. Doomers can be even more stubborn than "sheeple" sometimes once their doomer narrative is set in stone. You state your case, but in the end, be willing to agree to disagree, and be thankful those disagreements are only virtual and there is nothing tangible at stake. That won't always be the case.
Yes, we certainly are running over the same ground again and again, literally, with 5+ year old Monte threads getting bumped with predictably vitriolic results. But they don't call this a "dilemma" for nothing. Again and again I keep saying that peak oil will bring out the best and the worst in human nature. It will demand that we all reach down and expose who we are, what matters to us, what our values are. History will judge our actions in the rearview mirror. You're never going to reach universal agreement over what to do and why. For all we know, we all owe our existence to those who allowed themselves to commit horrendous atrocities during the Toba disaster in order that they would live while others died. Or maybe we are descendants of creative types who passively advoided conflict and found isolated niches in which to ride out collapse. Odds are it's a combination of both. These are the issues we have to grapple with and it's emotionally draining stuff. Nevertheless, I think a certain level of emotional detachment would be a good thing. There are going to be very few doomer "soulmates" if you will. If people are coming here for that, be prepared for disappointment.
The reason I have been so reluctant to discuss this is because ultimately these narcissistic discussions about netiquette are the kinds of things that can eat up swaths of your time This image says it all, really:

And seriously, how consistent is a powerdown future of getting your fingernails dirty in the garden and nurturing community with sitting beary eyed at a computer monitor at 3AM on a wordsend? I do think people would be better off spending their free time prepping than hanging out here. The internet is a great tool and it's how I learned about peak oil as most did but beyond a certain point it's more of a vice than an asset. I've been very busy these last few months putting a square foot garden together. There are plenty of other sites dedicated to gardening I could visit for practical advice on that front. If you feel you aren't learning anything by being here, then it's probably a good sign to leave it out of your regular routine. You can always PM people and get their contact info to stay in touch.