by lo_fi » Wed 17 Aug 2005, 01:25:44
The_red_pill wrote:
“I have felt a strange feeling since a child and have always somehow known that the future was in dire jeopardy.”
“Seeing oil hit nearly $67 today just reaffirms the faith that I have found "Peak oil" much like some find "Jesus".
“My next challenge in this quest for persistence will be to convince my wife of what is happening and begin to plan the move. She will have difficulty in swallowing this pill and I am very nervous of what may happen if she doesn't buy in to PO.”
“I do not fear losing oil, what I fear is losing my loved ones and the structure of a civilization that may be lost.”
“In some sense, I feel alive for the first time again, for I will have the chance to reconnect with my past (I was raised on a gentleman farm) and begin to concentrate on the important things of human life: relationships, love, sharing and real accomplishment.”
To which I say...
... maybe I'm out of line here, but if you don't fear losing oil, but do fear losing loved ones, and civilization 'structure', is there something not awry in losing connection with your wife, so that you can reconnect with your past, and (only then?!) begin to concentrate on the 'important things in life: relationships, love, sharing and real accomplishment?'
I mean, what is stopping you from focusing on the important things first? The story goes like this: A wise man gathers his pupils and fills a jar with large rocks. He asks his students if the jar is full, to which they reply affirmatively. The wise man then proceeds to pour small pebbles into the jar, which settle between the gaps created by the stones. Asked again whether the jar is full, the students’ answers now vary. The wise man then proceeds to pour sand into the jar, followed by water. Only then is the jar completely full. The wise man asks the students how this applies to time management. Bewildered, they reply that it doesn’t. Ah, but it does, he explains. If you don’t start with the big rocks first, you’ll never fit them in. Translated, if you don’t complete your big tasks first, you’ll never “fit them in,” or complete them. You can fit the smaller tasks in around the big ones, so start with the big ones.
My point being, that a strong loving relationship lived in *the present* will do a lot more for weathering losses than most physical preparation ever can. If I were you I'd start with my wife, not in trying to get her to 'buy in' or 'swallow a pill'- because that doesn't sound pleasant for either of you- not to mention its risky. I'd work on constructing something stable with which you both can grow, and share.