For true effectiveness, you should probably stick to rational direct connection to male motivational center. I'd suggest the anti-lysistrata approach.
Simply tell him you have discovered that the idea of actually living in a sustainable and sulf-sufficient manner turns you into a nymphomaniac who has to try every sexual position ever known to humankind. Daily.
If that is already your lifestyle, the extra exercise from both self-sufficiency and low-carbon footprint will help make it all work better.
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Psychology Major Looking to Get Persuasive
Re: Psychology Major Looking to Get Persuasive
by Fiddlerdave » Fri 18 Apr 2008, 05:15:54
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Re: Psychology Major Looking to Get Persuasive
by lys3rg0 » Fri 18 Apr 2008, 08:11:47
dump the hubby, get a new one who's po aware. i'm sure this site will provide a very large selection of lonely bastards that would kill for the touch of another human being 
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Re: Psychology Major Looking to Get Persuasive
by pup55 » Fri 18 Apr 2008, 08:59:53
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', ''')m trying to convince my husband
This is your biggest problem. The rest of the stuff can be managed.
Dealing with a hard headed spouse will just frustrate you. The harder you try to convince him, the more resistance you will get. I agree completely with the poster above, just let it trickle out. Watch the evening news together, and make an occasional comment, or give an occasional statistic. Eventually, the light will come on in his cave brain and he will be in a big panic to hit the road, and by then, you will already have a plan in place.
You, a psych major, ought to know this personality trait. For your elective fill in classes, if you have any, take marketing. You will find a knowledge of psychology, along with marketing, could be really useful if the system stays together.
That does not help you for the current decision, which is, where to rent? Tell that doofus that he is spending too much time and money on his commute, and you need him in good shape so he can perform his marital duty, so you want to live close to where he works for six months. This will also appeal to his cave brain. Don't worry about the rest of this stuff for now. I think the system will hold together for that long.
Meanwhile, get yourself a couple of garage sale bikes, and learn how to work on them. Get some puncture-proof tires so you do not have to deal with the cockleburs out there. Get you and the kid in shape to ride if you need to. When the time comes, ride east. I bet Shannymara will let you camp out at her place in Oklahoma if you agree to feed her goats.
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Re: Psychology Major Looking to Get Persuasive
by charliebrownout » Fri 18 Apr 2008, 20:42:32
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('pup55', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', ''')m trying to convince my husband
This is your biggest problem. The rest of the stuff can be managed.
Dealing with a hard headed spouse will just frustrate you. The harder you try to convince him, the more resistance you will get. I agree completely with the poster above, just let it trickle out. Watch the evening news together, and make an occasional comment, or give an occasional statistic. Eventually, the light will come on in his cave brain and he will be in a big panic to hit the road, and by then, you will already have a plan in place.
You, a psych major, ought to know this personality trait. For your elective fill in classes, if you have any, take marketing. You will find a knowledge of psychology, along with marketing, could be really useful if the system stays together.
That does not help you for the current decision, which is, where to rent? Tell that doofus that he is spending too much time and money on his commute, and you need him in good shape so he can perform his marital duty, so you want to live close to where he works for six months. This will also appeal to his cave brain. Don't worry about the rest of this stuff for now. I think the system will hold together for that long.
Meanwhile, get yourself a couple of garage sale bikes, and learn how to work on them. Get some puncture-proof tires so you do not have to deal with the cockleburs out there. Get you and the kid in shape to ride if you need to. When the time comes, ride east. I bet Shannymara will let you camp out at her place in Oklahoma if you agree to feed her goats.
I'm more or less done with my schooling (trying to get it finished). I took social and industrial psych, though. That said, even knowing what it means to be persuasive, it is something of an art. It also takes the right information to tip a person into active change.
I have been mentioning things as an "oh, would you look at this" and "did you notice..." and little things about our life that would be simpler if we adopted a more conservative lifestyle (ie moving closer, less house, paying down debt).
Last night I did a little of the obvious reading him some excerpts from the book by Dr. Stephen Leeb prefaced with a "what do you think about that? Interesting...isn't it?"
No, screaming "omigod we're gonna die!" just a "hmmm, whatdayathink?"
Of course, he says, "Yeah, oil is always going to go up." Shrugs, says everyone knows that and says it is no big deal because he's making enough now that he doesn't need to worry.
At which point I quietly excused myself to go scream into a pillow in another room.
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Re: Psychology Major Looking to Get Persuasive
by BigTex » Fri 18 Apr 2008, 20:56:10
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('charliebrownout', 'I')'m more or less done with my schooling (trying to get it finished). I took social and industrial psych, though. That said, even knowing what it means to be persuasive, it is something of an art. It also takes the right information to tip a person into active change.
I have been mentioning things as an "oh, would you look at this" and "did you notice..." and little things about our life that would be simpler if we adopted a more conservative lifestyle (ie moving closer, less house, paying down debt).
Last night I did a little of the obvious reading him some excerpts from the book by Dr. Stephen Leeb prefaced with a "what do you think about that? Interesting...isn't it?"
No, screaming "omigod we're gonna die!" just a "hmmm, whatdayathink?"
Of course, he says, "Yeah, oil is always going to go up." Shrugs, says everyone knows that and says it is no big deal because he's making enough now that he doesn't need to worry.
At which point I quietly excused myself to go scream into a pillow in another room.
I have been mentioning things as an "oh, would you look at this" and "did you notice..." and little things about our life that would be simpler if we adopted a more conservative lifestyle (ie moving closer, less house, paying down debt).
Last night I did a little of the obvious reading him some excerpts from the book by Dr. Stephen Leeb prefaced with a "what do you think about that? Interesting...isn't it?"
No, screaming "omigod we're gonna die!" just a "hmmm, whatdayathink?"
Of course, he says, "Yeah, oil is always going to go up." Shrugs, says everyone knows that and says it is no big deal because he's making enough now that he doesn't need to worry.
At which point I quietly excused myself to go scream into a pillow in another room.
You could just buy him a copy of "Overshoot" by William Catton and a gift certificate to the local Army Surplus store and just sit back and watch him turn into a doomer before your eyes.
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