by Roy » Thu 23 Jul 2009, 11:27:35
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'I') see it as a symptom of a bigger crisis. People aren't even honoring their dead or acknowledging them. This is a sea change. This isn't a one on one. It is a very high rate of change. Hell next month throw his ass out on the street. Dumb Bitch up and died.
Our culture hates death and loves it at the same time--support our troops! (look at the results of the last election if you don't believe me, or turn on some primetime broadcast TV).
We hide from death and old age. We try to make ourselves look younger and feel younger pharmaceutically and using medical procedures etc.
When someone dies, we have them embalmed in a chemical cocktail, then apply a nice suit of clothes and put makeup on them to make them look alive for their open casket funeral. And we spend thousands on a casket. WTF?
I don't understand and have never understood the idea of spending thousands of dollars on a funeral. I understand honoring the deceased person's memory, but don't think that requires all the trimmings of a modern funeral. A pine box, a cleric of some sort if you believe in that stuff, and close family is enough I think.
I would prefer to be buried in my backyard, under a fruit tree perhaps. Hell once you're dead you don't care anymore. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust.
Not chemically embalmed body buried in steel casket that doesn't decay for a loooooong time; and when it does will impart some toxic chemicals to the surrounding ground.
I would not want to be a financial burden on my family after I pass, or a superfund site either.
I think the old way of a family cemetery on family land could work well for those of us in rural areas.
City folk? They will continue to have to pay for a space. Seagypsy's idea is also a good option in my opinion, at least for those who live in coastal areas.
Our government has created a set of regulations that forbids or makes it very difficult for folks to take care of their own, in a way making funeral expenses mandatory.
That will change in time I believe.