by emeraldg40 » Wed 14 Jan 2009, 14:58:38
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('threadbear', 'M')y poor mother continues to worsen. It's some form of dementia, probably rapid vascular dementia. We could encourage her to have all kinds of tests to further clarify, but she has had 2 mri's and the results are inconclusive. She's 80 and her mother went through a very similar decline.
None of us want her to have to make the rounds of more doctors, because it just scares her all the more. The hardest part is the extreme aphasia. She is frightened and can't tell us exactly why, we have to almost guess, and we can't reassure her easily, as she doesn't understand what we're saying. She is very afraid we are planning to put her in a "facility", which she called a "fill" (At first I thought she maybe meant a land fill, and was really upset that she thought we might do that!) Communication has become a mine field of confusion, occasionally it can be kind of funny, and I firmly believe that you HAVE to laugh, whenever you can, as it makes it easier.
I agree with Blu, if you're making preps and have older parents, please try to find a place for them in those plans. My father knows he is welcome to live with us if Mom predeceases him and that's about the best I can do, at this point.
Im so sorry to hear about your mom. I can offer one suggestion if she is taking any medications. Load them up in a paper bag and take them to a trusted pharmacist and ask for his opinion. You really would not BELIEVE what physicians do not know about drug/drug interactions and Food/drug issues etc. Many of our elderly on being treated for so many things....in pharmacy land we call it Poly Pharmacy....it is a very real problem and the first to address (if not already done

I wish you the best! ~