by Ebyss » Sun 03 Apr 2005, 21:05:08
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'M')ay I ask you why you are having sex when you are not married? Is it just a physical urge?
And why don't you marry? If you really love your boyfriend you should marry and make children. You should not just have a job, make love, and watch TV. That's not good. You should celebrate and consecrate your love by marrying. Then you can have sex to make babies.
May I ask why we should?
I have sex because I enjoy it, when I want to "make babies" I will, but not until then. Love and marriage have little to do with each other. My grandmother married because she was pregnant. She spat out children every year by an abusive husband, and wouldn't even think about "divorce" (it wasn't even legal then, so it wasn't an option). So she stayed while he beat the shit out of her.
My own parents were not married until a few months ago (I'm 26.. and they married in a registy office), they had two children and we all had a very happy family life. According to the Church we are the ultimate sinners, and yet my parents are the most generous people I know. They have raised two caring and compassionate daughters, who have enough common sense to know what is right and what is wrong without having to have a priest tell them. I have lived in this "sinful" situation all my life, and have seen that it can be as good as any marriage. Thus marriage has no hold over me.
You don't need Catholicism to be a good person. Not all Catholics are good people.
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', ' ')You should not just have a job, make love, and watch TV.
You assume too much. That's not my life at all.
Note that I would never tell you how you should live, you have no right to tell me how I should live.