[like_the_dinosaurs]

Well it's over, she is supposed to call on tuesday and tell me how she feels but i know it's going to be no. Thats if she calls, lol. I tried to save it but the rot had set in. I'm going to concentrate on myself for a while.

The thing is when the shit hits the fan she will come back to me, is she doing it for love (most likely not) and will i still love her (not sure)

At least now i can stop thinking about it, i heard the answer in her voice.

It's over much like this world.

[RedStateGreen]

Sorry to hear that. Hope you find someone who really cares for you soon.

[DomusAlbion]

The best thing to do is to let go.

Don't be angry with her, that only leads to bitterness.

Forgive her, forgive yourself, but never trust her or her words again.

You'll find a woman who is more like minded and sober about the situation in the world and what we face in the future.

Good Luck.

[canuckinczech]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('DomusAlbion', 'T')he best thing to do is to let go.
Don't be angry with her, that only leads to bitterness.
Forgive her, forgive yourself, but never trust her or her words again.
You'll find a woman who is more like minded and sober about the situation in the world and what we face in the future.
Good Luck.

[like_the_dinosaurs]

Well where talking again. So i guess we will have to see where it goes. I have my guard up now so no matter which way it goes i wont be hurt and i'm still going ahead with my previous plans of self improvement.

I'll keep you posted. Thanks for all of your views on this matter as they really helped me put things into perspective which is always hard when your feelings are so strong.

Thanks again.

[Micki]

Just keep reminding yourself to be prepared for anything.
It is easy to get back into a rut and then WHAM she stabs a knife in the back. Not because she wants to but because she can't help herself.

I had quite a hard time myself in my younger days with this lady that twisted my head. She broke up with her boyfriend who she had been with for a few years. From what she told me he was quite a jerk. All happy and nice until 2 months later she went missing for 4 days. She showed up at my place asking for her stuff and said she got back together with her ex. Turned out she had been calling him everyday and been out for lunches together...and perhaps something more. Another two weeks later she's back at my place crying and saying she made a mistake just because they had been together so long before she met me. A bit hesitant I let it slip and everything was fine for a few weeks....well you get my drift.
Suddenly her ex called me up (had managed to look up my number in her phonebook) and wanted a drink and chat. Turned out she'd been like that all the time he had known her and that she had some bad baggage she was carrying with her from past.
And yes, she had been talking crap about me when she was with him and although I can't prove she slept around with other guys (except the ex) we know she had been around a fair bit while being with him.
I tried to stay friends with her as we had great fun partying ...and I guess I was trying to get something more out of it but without getting emotionally involved, but now that I was aware I noticed that about 50% of everything she said was just lies.
It was just wearing me down until I one day just asked her to FU*K OFF and I stopped taking her calls.
(That pretty much sums up about 3% of all the headache and heartache I went through).

I am not suggesting your girlfriend is anything like that nightmare, but I am just saying, don't underestimate the self destructive nature of messed up women and men who delude themselves that all will be OK.

[POAlex]

There's nothing wrong with being single, LTD.

Alex