by Auntie_Cipation » Sun 12 Oct 2008, 16:25:10
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('ReverseEngineer', 'I') am not a big believer in coincidence either, thus the reason for the ?mark in the subject line of the thread.
I look for reasons and for connections, I don't think all life is random. If it were random, you wouldn't see the organization apparent in it.
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I do not think that my life was ruled by pure chance. There had to be some REASON behind it, and I ABSOLUTELY could not have lived as long as I have if there was not. I should have died on at least 3 occassions, but I did not. I cannot explain this, I always figured I just got "Lucky". I am no longer so sure about that.
There is reason behind this all, its just beyond my grasp at the moment. I hope that I can figure it all out before the Grim Reaper comes a-calling.
Reverse Engineer
I definitely believe that coincidences occur. However, I don't believe that means that EVERYTHING is "just" a coincidence.
I entirely agree about the patterns and organization found in nature (as well as in human constructs) -- anytime we look at something from a different scale than usual, the patterns become apparent. Just trying looking out the window of a flying airplane, or perusing topographical maps of mountains and valleys. Looking at things through microscopes, or over a compressed time scale, produces the same thing -- patterns we don't see at our normal scale.
I agree that, coincidences aside, there are connections between things. And that those connections have a reason -- whatever drives the connections in the first place.
What I don't agree with is the frequent assumption (and I'm not accusing RE of this, but I do see it often in people around me) that a "reason" must have portence and meaning to us, the humans, with the brains, trying to assign meaning to everything. As in, "why am I here", "is this what I was meant to do".
I think that, most often, the reasons behind things are simply the laws of nature, biology, psychology. They would likely not make sense to us, in the way we'd like them to, even if we always saw those reasons with crystal clear accuracy.
People seem to want the "reasons" to be ones that speak to their own specialness (again, not speaking to you, RE, but more thinking of folks I know personally -- especially, but not limited to, those with uber-religious inclinations).
For example, if we ask ourselves "what is the significance of the wild weather this year", I think first of all that we can't answer that question usefully until this year's weather is put in proper context -- which means an understanding not only of your region's climate history, but also of statistics -- can't tell you how many times someone has said some event is dramatically significant when it's actually a regular but infrequent event -- a 20-year storm, for example. Statistically, there is nothing special about a the occurrence of a 20-year storm that happens within its expected timeframe -- the thing that is significant TO US is that 20 years is a long time inbetween, and this time WE got to be here for it!
So, depending on the specifics, that storm either is or isn't meaningful in that way, depending on whether it's outside the range of natural variability. What it ISN'T, in my personal opinion, is a message to any individual telling them they are (or aren't) making the right decision in their life.
If someone doesn't want to live where it snows a lot, for example, then it makes sense for them to use that 3-foot dump of a snowstorm they just experienced as a decision point, for sure. But they shouldn't pretend that the "reason" for the storm was to deliver that message.
"Sometimes", as Freud said on some SNL skit of 25 years ago, "a banana, is just a banana."
My .02
"... among the ways available in which a man can die, it is a rare and signal distinction to be killed by a leopard."
-- Raymond Dasmann