[IndigoMoon]

And all of the sudden peak oil, the market, and the economy just do not matter any more.

[seahorse]

Indigo, I'm very sorry for your loss.

[kpeavey]

I have no magic words to offer for your loss. As we are not close, I am unable to share your grief. All I can do is offer an ear, if you want to discuss it.

I lost 2 of the closest friends I've ever had in this past year. Angel was 36, her kidneys failed. Her husband, Bob, was 60. He died of a broken heart. Their loss has been difficult to bear. Angel is on my desk, waiting for some paperwork to move across some desks so Bob can join her, at which point their last wishes will be carried out.

And you are right about perspective. Money means nothing. The problems of the world offer neither hope nor gloom. The death of those close to you brings out your friends. The people you can count on, talk to, laugh with, cry with. Those are the people who I let deep inside my being. They are rare indeed.

[IndigoMoon]

Thank you, Seahorse and kpeavey. He was my ex-husband yet still my children's father- they are 21 & 25. It brought my own mortality front and center. He had heart surgery and did not survive. I will be 50 in 1 1/2 years but I am not ready to check out. I have more important things that I need to do. Unfortunately, I am lost. I buried my own mother when I was just 13. None of you know me. Right now, you are my sounding board.

[eastbay]

A sounding board. Good idea.

I believe there are many here who will read your sad words and wish they had a few kind words of comfort to offer you. I certainly do.

Thankfully we humans are hard wired in a way allowing the sadness and pain to diminish over time.

[smallpoxgirl]

That sucks. An uncle who was very dear to me died very suddenly a year ago in August. It just sucks. It's a crappy part of this existence that loved one leave us.

*huggs*

[kpeavey]

Sound away.

Its your children that will need your strength right now. If you need a place to find it, we can help.

[katkinkate]

So sorry. How are the kids taking it?

[beamofthewave]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is so hard losing loved ones and I am just glad to hear that your children have you to help them through this.

[Ferretlover]

Indigo, I am so sorry for the loss your family has suffered.

[seahorse]

Indigo,

Thank you for sharing, bc I have three kids and a wife, and its important to never take any moment for granted.

[IndigoMoon]

Neither one are talking, either of my sons. They have a strained relationship at best. Never marry your best friend. We should have just remained friends. It hurts beyond words.

Probably too late- (just in case anyone read that) ignore that. he was my best friend and we had the pleasure of raising two exceptional boys. They would make any parent proud. Follow your heart - always. It will never steer you wrong. He and I just had different paths to follow.

[Tanada]

Indigo, I highly recommend Gabby's Ladder , though we are a few hundred miles apart I can send you the literature they put out which would be appropriate for your circumstance. If you want me to send it just PM me your address and I will get it to you as soon as I can.

I am not in any way affiliated with Gabby's Ladder, we stock their literature at work for families we know might be in need of it.

Having lost your own mother you may find that this will draw you and your children closer than ever before. Be there for each other is the best advice I have to give.

[blukatzen]

Indigo, my sympathies on the loss of your ex-spouse, and the father of your children. In his sons, his spirit will live on. Don't forget to communicate with your sons when it is time to do so.
Sometimes families can drift apart, some things are never said that could be incredibly healing. I suffered that after my mother's death with my father. It never got better, he died quickly, and things were never said.
Just make sure the communication lines are always there, and open.

I am sure he's in a better place right now, at peace. I hope you can focus, in the future, on the good, fun, happy times you've shared, and the proudest moments you had as parents together, of your sons.

Wishing you the best, dear,
(hugs)

Blu

[IndigoMoon]

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I cannot focus yet I need to sleep. I will have a houseful tomorrow, all of my boys friends call me Mom and will be here. I will stand strong. My peace will come in time.

[DrBang]

Indigo,

I am most saddened to hear this. Like many here I would like to help you feel better somehow.

Life runs cycles and spirals. The people you meet are part of that. Especially the important ones. Love, laugh and remember.

The time of ashes

Kind regards

Dr Bang

[killJOY]

My favorite Uncle died two weeks ago.

We all feel for you.

[Madpaddy]

My thoughts and prayers are with you IndigoMoon.

[Transient]

My sincere condolences for your sad loss also.

[vision-master]

I will be devastated when my old girl (black lab) dies.