by one_more_day » Wed 23 Jan 2008, 17:11:10
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('pup55', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'c')ontrol freak who doesn't like change or too many variables
Let me guess....female.
I'll admit to being female, but the control freak thing has more to do with my kids. I wasn't like this at all before they were around.
As a single person it is much easier and much more practical to keep your options open.
If I were considering things just for myself, this would be a lot more simple.
by pup55 » Wed 23 Jan 2008, 23:47:03
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 's')ingle person
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 't')each my kids
Single person with kids. I can see where you are worried about all of this. I respect your courage in trying to deal with this situation.
However, you would be surprised how tough those little ones can be. Also, you would be surprised how much they are aware of your moods, etc. so will pick up on it right away if you are freaking out, particularly if you are the main adult caregiver.
This might be an interesting topic for a thread in the "planning for the future" forum.
I have been around some of the grown up version of this type of kids, and for the most part they do okay, but a lot of them are kind of squishy when they reach teenagerhood. I still recommend strenuous exercise for both kids and mom. Helps with self-sufficiency, gets them away from the video games, and has some potential for positive social interaction for the whole crew.
Others may have more constructive suggestions.
by Lumpy » Thu 24 Jan 2008, 00:42:27
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('one_more_day', 'I')t's like I'm a manic/depressive who is fast-cycling. One day I think that I have a few years and want to pay off my debts, work on the garden, teach my kids, etc. The next I feel all is lost ....
No matter which part of the cycle I'm in, I feel like shit!
.... if this doom and gloom keeps up too much longer I just might snap.
Am I married to you? Seriously, though, your post reminds me a lot of what I watch my husband go through.
Hard on you (and him and me!).
Lumpy
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by BigTex » Thu 24 Jan 2008, 00:46:51
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('pup55', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 's')ingle person
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 't')each my kids
Single person with kids. I can see where you are worried about all of this. I respect your courage in trying to deal with this situation.
However, you would be surprised how tough those little ones can be. Also, you would be surprised how much they are aware of your moods, etc. so will pick up on it right away if you are freaking out, particularly if you are the main adult caregiver.
This might be an interesting topic for a thread in the "planning for the future" forum.
I have been around some of the grown up version of this type of kids, and for the most part they do okay, but a lot of them are kind of squishy when they reach teenagerhood. I still recommend strenuous exercise for both kids and mom. Helps with self-sufficiency, gets them away from the video games, and has some potential for positive social interaction for the whole crew.
Others may have more constructive suggestions.
It's very hard to do sometimes, but facing fear and uncertainty with absolute confidence teaches kids to do the same thing. It doesn't matter what you are facing, do it with strength (kind of like Yoda teaches) and your kids will be better off. I don't always do this, but when I do I notice that things are a lot less jumpy with my kids and in my house in general. Most freaking out is the result of your imagination messing with you, as opposed to the actual thing you are dreading. Dealing with the thing you are dreading tends to be simple compared to sitting around stewing about it.
by one_more_day » Fri 25 Jan 2008, 21:12:29
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('pup55', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 's')ingle person
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 't')each my kids
Single person with kids. I can see where you are worried about all of this. I respect your courage in trying to deal with this situation.
However, you would be surprised how tough those little ones can be. Also, you would be surprised how much they are aware of your moods, etc. so will pick up on it right away if you are freaking out, particularly if you are the main adult caregiver.
This might be an interesting topic for a thread in the "planning for the future" forum.
I have been around some of the grown up version of this type of kids, and for the most part they do okay, but a lot of them are kind of squishy when they reach teenagerhood. I still recommend strenuous exercise for both kids and mom. Helps with self-sufficiency, gets them away from the video games, and has some potential for positive social interaction for the whole crew.
Others may have more constructive suggestions.
Just to clear up a few points...
I was referring to single people without kids. I think they have a lot more freedom to respond as they see fit to the current conditions.
My custody agreement with my ex requires me to stay in my county. That means I have no choice but to live in the city. My dear husband (#2) is PO aware and supports my efforts prepare. However, he is tied down by needing to care for his aging father. For the next 15 years at least, we are stuck where we are.
What I do worry about is feeding 4 people vs. 1, keeping 4 people together during an emergency evacuation instead of just being able to grab a bag and go, etc. The planning is much more complicated. I do all I can to teach them skills that will be useful in the future. I know they can travel on foot a long ways if need be. They might not get everything handed to them, but they'll probably survive
I can't let the kids in on my doomerishness. I'm sure their bio-dad would love to get his hands on that info and have me court-ordered for a psych-eval. Everything I teach them has to be introduced as a "hobby": Hiking, gardening, raising rabbits, survival skills.