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Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

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Are you divorced?

Poll ended at Tue 15 Apr 2008, 03:53:58

I am divorced
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No votes
I am married
27
No votes
I'm single and loving it
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Total votes : 52

Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby Ayoob » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 03:53:58

Just curious.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby Ayoob » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 03:54:45

Poll skipped my 4th option. Dammit.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby FreakOil » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 06:41:25

How about turning this into a more substantive discussion?

Is it better to be married or single when TSHTF? I'm single, young, healthy and unburdened by a wife and children, which certainly has its advantages. On the other hand, having someone who loves and supports you might make all the difference in a crisis situation.

Thoughts?
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby Grifter » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 08:24:48

Seperated, less stressed.

Hopefully divorce will be amicable :roll: have to wait another year though.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby Cloud9 » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 08:33:21

It depends on your partner.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby wisconsin_cur » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 08:34:26

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'u')nburdened by a wife and children,


Never understood that attitude. I think marriage and children are a joy, like music. Could music be a burden?

If you mean that there are others to care for than yourself, I call that "community." Community starts with the family (however defined) as its most basic unit.

If we do have a serious crisis, and I believe we will, the last thing we will need is a bunch of lone rangers just interested in takng care of themselves. this is neither the basis for virtue or the long-run reorganization of society in form that we would call "good." What we will need is groups of people working together and caring for one another and that begins with families taking care of one another.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby Grifter » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 08:59:11

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If we do have a serious crisis, and I believe we will, the last thing we will need is a bunch of lone rangers just interested in takng care of themselves. this is neither the basis for virtue or the long-run reorganization of society in form that we would call "good." What we will need is groups of people working together and caring for one another and that begins with families taking care of one another.


There are a great many people (myself NOT included) who believe there is no such thing as society (I think similar to community), only individuals and families.

Thatcher said that and a large enough portion of the British public agreed and put her into power.

I see people with children who don't seem to give a damn about the future and I see childless couples and single people who actually DO care about the future.

I think it better to be in a family "unit" personally, but it is probably because it would be better for me rather than society as a whole.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby bl00k » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 09:02:53

Hell no i'm not married. Waaay too young for that stuff (20 yrs).
Freedom is what i want, having no one at all is ultimate freedom, but as i now know that having somebody is quite pleasurable thats not anything i aspire.

But children???? No way. That's something for when i'll be old. But i'm not really planning on growing old anytime soon.

Besides, i'm helping the world as a whole by not having kids. ;)
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby FoolYap » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 09:10:42

Uh, how should we vote if we've divorced and remarried? 8)

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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby dinopello » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 09:37:59

Happily divorced, very amicable relative to these things. My ex and I got along OK and she's a good person, but we weren't meant to be married. My friends tried to warn me. Fortunatley, no kids out of that episode. Haven't ruled out trying again some day, armed with experience.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby IslandCrow » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 09:52:56

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('bl00k', 'H')ell no i'm not married. Waaay too young for that stuff (20 yrs).


???? Way too young ??????

I married when I was 21, and have been married for about 60% of my life!

At least in biological terms 20 is not too young.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby WisJim » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 12:08:03

Been married for about 35 years, and find that we are able to get a lot more done together than we would have seperately. Our interests mesh very well--for example, I start plants, help prepare the garden and plant things, she does most of the weeding and day to day harvesting, I help can, freeze, etc., I take care of the orchard but she helps pick and process. I do most building projects (now with the help of sons if they are around--youngest is 26), she helps me when I need another set of hands. We built our first house together, with hand tools and very little additional help.

She has been just as enthusiastic as I in preparing for whatever may be coming down the road (since 1973 or so).

She always says that she saves money so that I have larger sums to spend. If I ask if we can afford to have a new roof put on the barn, she tells me to get the cost figured out, and then she tells me where the money is coming from. We might scrimp and seem cheap day to day, but we can always take advantage of any good deals that come along.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby TheTurtle » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 15:11:07

Happily married. Two grown children, both of them healthy, bright and competent. All four of us are PO aware and ready for what may come.

I would be far less prepared for what the future brings without my family with me. There is strength in numbers. :)
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby dinopello » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 15:34:59

pstarr, you don't need to be married to reap those rewards.

Even without a wife or a partner, I could say I make out in an economic sense because I rent out a room or two in my house. My current roommate is really great, and happens to be young and attractive (not that I fish off the pier) - try that with a wife !

I don't knock marriage though, it can be a wonderful thing.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby emersonbiggins » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 15:48:22

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('pstarr', 'Y')ou can defend marriage purely on an economic measure.


If so, then polygamy > monogamy.

I'll explain this to my wife later. 8)
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby PenultimateManStanding » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 16:15:53

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('dinopello', 'F')ortunatley, no kids out of that episode.
That, my friend, is not so fortunate. Not by a wide margin. Sure the legal system can get you by the short hairs if you don't keep your marriage together, but kids are a blessing. Mine are all dear to me and it makes the prospects of peakoil all the more frightful.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby jboogy » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 16:30:15

Single up to the age of around 26 or 27 , was very happy and thought that was the way to live ,then a girlfriend got pregnant , we got married and it's been wedded bliss, or whatever, ever since that fateful day. I really can't complain, children change your life completely and I love being a Dad and the wifey has been a joy all in all.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby dinopello » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 16:38:21

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('PenultimateManStanding', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('dinopello', 'F')ortunatley, no kids out of that episode.
That, my friend, is not so fortunate. Not by a wide margin. Sure the legal system can get you by the short hairs if you don't keep your marriage together, but kids are a blessing. Mine are all dear to me and it makes the prospects of peakoil all the more frightful.


I agree about kids in general. My ex never wanted kids and would not have been a good mother by her own admission (although i was a little more generous than she about her own ability). Someday, I may still have my own, or adopt someone else's, who knows. Right now, I enjoy being an uncle to 7 little ones. Well, ages 5 to 16 anyway.
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Re: Best of 2007: Are You Divorced

Unread postby basil_hayden » Wed 16 Jan 2008, 17:08:58

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('dinopello', '
')I don't knock marriage though, it can be a wonderful thing.


Same with divorce!
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