I'll try to get back to some of the original questions.
Pumping water by hand to get enough to drink, wash people and dishes, process food, etc., isn't hard as it doesn't take a lot of water to take care of basic needs if you don't have to shower twice a day and change clothes even more often.
Some of my favorite books about house design and construction:
The Well Tempered House--Roert Argue, 1980
A couple of books by Alex Wade, on energy efficient housing and construction
Sun/Earth Buffering and Superinsulation--Don Booth et al
Passive Solar Energy--Anderson and Wells
The Hawkweed Passive Solar House Book--Wright
solar hot water:
Solar Water Heating: A Comprehensive Guide--Ramlow & Nusz
Solar electric:
The Homeowners Guide to Renewable Energy--Chiras (a recent and fairly good and complete overview)
the catalog and on-line info from BackWoods Solar:
http://www.backwoodssolar.com/
They aren't the cheapest supplier, and don't have the most complete line of products, but they have been in business, using, selling, and installing PVs and wind systems for decades.
Go to an energy fair if possible. Go on the Solar Tour, sponsored throughout the country by the American Solar Energy Society, mostly on Saturday October 6, 2007, and look at homes and business using alternative energy and construction methods.
http://www.ases.org/tour/
There are links to most state tours on the national website.