by Guest » Sun 12 Dec 2004, 08:50:49
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')If this wasn't in Thailand (military/political dictatorship with lots of rebels out there in the jungle), I'd say this was a no-brainer. After all, whatever happens, we've all gotta EAT....the jungle may have a lot of holistic-type plants for medicine (not to mention fruits, nuts, and veggies)
This guy VERY obviously does not have a clue about Thailand, either politically or the nature.
Thailand is a democratic kingdom. It has very little jungle. It does not have "lots of rebels" (there are a few Muslim dissenters close to the Malay border).
As for the jungle, you could starve to death in it, unless you happen to be a long-tailed macaque or a langur. You rarely see any fruit or nuts (or animals) and, as for identifying plants for medicines, forget it. Even the members of the hill tribes in the far north of the country prefer to go to the pharmacy.
You are obviously split between heart and mind and PO is a total red herring in your decision process. You are young and the effects of it will be slow to happen. Do not be scared of what the doomsayers spout. If you love your boy friend and are able to assimilate the culture shock and be assimilated by his family, then I would say try this out. If you find you have made a mistake, you can always return to Oz.
However, one word of warning, where I tread on very thin ice with your feelings. Many Thai boys (and girls) are extremely good looking and it is easy to be attracted to them. Before you make your definitive decision, make sure that your relationship is deep and mutual. I don't know much about homosexual relationships but I do know that the great majority of heterosexual relationships where Europeans have married Thai girls really do not work out. The fact that you are well educated and he "comes from a farming background" may signal impending problems. Do you think that, in Oz, you would be likely to have a relationship with the son of an outback cattle rancher? Do not consider exoticism as a plus sign; it is a BIG negative.
My advice: go to Thailand for a year's trial. Do not make any plans with your boy friend in that time. If your relationship with him is still very strong and you are happy there with him and with your life in general, as an alien (you will always be an alien, even if you take out Thai citizenship), then reconsider continuing into a more permanent place there. If not, then return home.
I base this on my own life. I have moved round Europe and have lived in several places with different languages and cultures. It is not easy and I know many who give up after a year or two. And the differences within Europe are tiny compared to the difference between Oz and Thailand.