[uNkNowN ElEmEnt]

I know someone who is having marital problems. Her hubby says he needs time away from her because he resents her. See, he dumped her for a few weeks before they got back together and got married. in that time she slept with a guy she had been involved with before.

She told him after they were married cause it looked like this guy was obsessing over her and was going to try and make some trouble. But they had been broken up when it happened, HE dumped her. Now he says resents her cause she didn't tell him before they got married, so he feels they got married under false pretenses.

I think its a power thing cause he's saying things have to be on "his" terms. I think he's just making a power grab in the relationship and being an asshole. What do you think? They've been married for almost three years now, but he just won't let it rest.

Does he just want out, back to the single life? I told her I thought it sounded like he wanted the best of both worlds. He's saying if he wants to go out and party until dawn, he should be able to. He works afternoon shifts and they have been spending little time together, on his days off he's always on the computer but still wants her to stick around the house.

There are no kids and they have two years into the marriage. The guys he works with call her a gourmand cause she makes him lunches and dinners that most of them drool over. He drives her truck everywhere while she walks. She spends a fair amount of time coffee'ing with her friends and has major PMS once is a while. So its not like everything is perfect but its a lot better than most relationships out there.

He might be jealous cause she only works part-time as a stylist but makes as much money as he does. And I wonder if he is acting out his parents pattern because he comes from a divorced dysfunctional family. He wants her to just stay in the appartment they have and keep everything else going the same, but then will turn around and says he needs to leave.

[Aaron]

Acting as a male to female translator.

"I need time away cause I resent you.''

Translation: "I'm gonna do something I don't want you to know about."

He resents her... lol.

We are talking about a man here right?

[CarlinsDarlin]

UE,
This guy reminds me of a guy I dated for far too long. Tell her to drop him like a hot rock. It doesn't get better. He's trying to have something to hold over her head - and believe me, if he thinks he can, he will. Sounds like he's a bit of a control freak as well... as I said, he reminds me of someone I used to know. Past tense - for exactly that reason. No regrets.
K

[azreal60]

Completely off topic for a second, but aaron, on behalf of all people who read the book or watched the movie IT... you HAVE to get rid of that freaky clown. It scares the bejebers out of me every time i load up one of your posts.

As for the guy, listen, one of the primary things any long lasting marriage absolutely HAS to have is the ability for both partys to get along. I dated a girl once that in many ways was perfect for me. I did love her, and we clicked on alot of issues. But for some reason, we just couldn't get along. I am now married to a woman who i don't have as much commonality of issues, but i love and get along with a heck of alot more. If anything, being able to have differences means we will always have something to talk about. But honestly, after being in several long term relationships, I have come to the conclusion that being able to get along is the single most important factor in a lasting relationship.

[PenultimateManStanding]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('azreal60', 'C')ompletely off topic for a second, but aaron, on behalf of all people who read the book or watched the movie IT... you HAVE to get rid of that freaky clown. It scares the bejebers out of me every time i load up one of your posts.

[uNkNowN ElEmEnt]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'O')n the woman's part we have a secret sexual liasion, one big whopper of a lie and marriage under false pretenses. And now that the woman has brought all this out in the open (only because she is about to be exposed), slapping the guy in the face with her untrustworthiness, the man is just supposed to just sit back and accept it all, or he gets accused of being unmanly, or a baby about it.

[PenultimateManStanding]

The solution is arranged marriages with no divorce allowed - just what we'll have here before too long. Society is going to trump the individual in the post peak world. Not that I'm happy about it, but that's probably what will happen. No more freedom and tolerance for silly childish adults.

[Specop_007]

Its called the "past" for a reason. Thats where it should stay.
If you bring your past into your marriage/relationship, it will fail.

Tell her to cut her losses and run now.

[Raxozanne]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('PenultimateManStanding', 'T')he solution is arranged marriages with no divorce allowed - just what we'll have here before too long. Society is going to trump the individual in the post peak world. Not that I'm happy about it, but that's probably what will happen. No more freedom and tolerance for silly childish adults.

[Specop_007]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Raxozanne', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('PenultimateManStanding', 'T')he solution is arranged marriages with no divorce allowed - just what we'll have here before too long. Society is going to trump the individual in the post peak world. Not that I'm happy about it, but that's probably what will happen. No more freedom and tolerance for silly childish adults.

[Raxozanne]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Specop_007', '
')Oh good. Finally a system where women can come out and openly be skank ass whores, instead of having to act like prudes and just be a pack of lying fucking sluts on the weekends.

[Specop_007]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Raxozanne', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Specop_007', '
')Oh good. Finally a system where women can come out and openly be skank ass whores, instead of having to act like prudes and just be a pack of lying fucking sluts on the weekends.

[Raxozanne]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Specop_007', '
')Your words, not mine.
I never stated I did or did not hold men to the same standard.

But I understand what you mean, and as a culture yes what you say is true.

[Specop_007]

Wheres the BC thread?? I missed that one......

And to be brutally honest, I'm not except from the whore status.
Or, by your own words, a "conquistador and black stallion" (Although technically white stallion)

Hmmm. Specop, manwhore or Specop, conquistador and stallion.

I must say, I prefer your name convention to mine....

Now lets cut to the chase my dear.
Wanna ride the pony?

[Raxozanne]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Specop_007', '
')Now lets cut to the chase my dear.
Wanna ride the pony?

[Specop_007]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Raxozanne', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Specop_007', '
')Now lets cut to the chase my dear.
Wanna ride the pony?

[Specop_007]

Heres one for you Raxozanne.

How do you feel about the woman in a marriage taking the mans last name?

[Raxozanne]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Specop_007', 'H')eres one for you Raxozanne.

How do you feel about the woman in a marriage taking the mans last name?

[Specop_007]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Raxozanne', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Specop_007', 'H')eres one for you Raxozanne.

How do you feel about the woman in a marriage taking the mans last name?

[k_semler]

1-800-DRLAURA. 1-800-Dr Laura. uNkNowN ElEmEnt, Welcome to the program!