I get asked this question alot and my usual response is for the person to post it on this forum. I have a situation comparable to the poster whose post I am quoting below. This was originally posted about a month ago, but degenerated into arguments rather quickly.
I would like to reopen it for discussion.
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'T')his is my first post on the forum. After having absorbed information from here and various other sources for several months, I've come to the conclusion that a global economic crisis is fast approaching, followed by a decline of living conditions (of uncertain duration) to pre-industrial levels.
My primary problem right now is attempting to engage my wife in helping to prepare and plan for the future. My attempts to engage her with this have been met with a refusal to discuss the topic. I don't think it's disbelief; rather a wilful refusal to acknowledge the situation. In addition to the normal psychological resistance to such a profound change in the status quo, the big reason is likely to be that she was recently diagnosed with a chronic medical condition. Without medication, her condition would eventually deteriorate to a fatal condition.
Our situation is that both our jobs are heavily technology-dependent and likely to be gone sooner rather than later (I'm a programmer, she works for a pharmaceutical testing company). We live about ten miles outside a mid-sized city in a semi-rural area that's currently being suburbanized. Our debt consists of an $800 mortgage payment (recently refinanced 30-year fixed), and two car payments of ~$300 each, with several years remaining.
My wife's parents live on a "dormant" mini-farm about 100 miles away, with over 10 fallow acres, that they own outright. While they are currently "on-the-grid", they have many worthwhile skills, such as gardening, canning, hunting, woodworking, that I would feel to be very beneficial in the future. My ideal plan would have been to sell the house and cars (get rid of debt), and simply move in with them and continue preparations from there. However, even before TSHTF, I can see medical supplies becoming a real issue due to cost (without job-related medical benefits) and supply (lack of proximity to a good sized city). Furthermore, my attempts to plan are greatly hampered by the (understandable) denial my wife has demonstrated whenever I bring the topic up.
I was wondering how other peak-oilers with dependent SOs are planning for the future, and/or what advice they would give for someone in my situation. I hope this is the appropriate forum for this question



