by Sixstrings » Tue 07 Jul 2015, 09:35:11
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ibon', 'W')hen you live in an affluent society where you can fine tune and satiate all your desires, this tends to develop a focus on self. Digital media has greatly exasperated this. Self indulgence, like materialism, does not provide a deeper sense of connection to others or toward your planet. This is what leads to frustration and bitterness. It leads to very degraded human social skills. You become angry easily, you insult others, you criticize and demean others point of view. Your compassion gets reduced to almost zero.
Nicely said. And that's the Buddhist message. And really, the message of all religion -- whereas it's consumerism that tries to fill the empty existential places with new shiny "things" and diversions. Yet "enough," is never enough -- even for a multi billionaires, or however much a person seems to have, it's just never enough.
So that's what the buddhist ideas of "attachment" are about, and the cycle of "dukkha." That people need the "things" to fill them up, then they get attached to the things, scared of losing the things, when the reality of life is that ALL "things" are impermanent. And so, suffering is universal.
The central message is empathy: if one is suffering over a loss, the best thing one can do is turn that toward care for someone else.
I'm not a "buddhist" but I have always liked it. I read a ton of zen and buddhism books years ago and really soaked it in. One can get to the same place, with Christianity as well or other religions. But the lesson is the same, and it's important tool to have in one's toolkit -- an ability to ACCEPT change and loss, and acceptance of impermanence, as a fundamental principle.
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'Y')ou begin to seek negative attention because you are starved of real quality human contact. We can all easily recognize posters who come along here at times demonstrating these traits.
Some of us move in and out of moments of more compassion and then clamp down again in bitterness. To make yourself vulnerable and to practice humility requires courage. In your self devised prison of narcissism you are an emperor of one and you dictate the rules. A lonely kingdom.
I resemble some of those remarks.
At least I'm aware of it. And bend towards compassion, and am mindful, I try to be.
Out in the real world.. our families and social circles.. the truth is that there is a MOUNTAIN of selfishness and pettyness to deal with out there, so.. it's hard to be an all empathetic, humble rock in the middle of that ocean, you know? The arguing and "bitterness" is the language of the group, so you almost have to speak the language. (and that is true on "the internet" most of all, where the discourse is often the least empathetic).
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'I')n a world crowded with lonely narcissists there is a growing need of mentors that encourage the opening of the heart and compassion. The Dalai Lama is such a mentor.