WOW! Both of those traumas, just to survive either of them, are incredible! Even more incredible that both fathers ended up only more reserved than normal, but otherwise OK. Seriously, unless you've been there, these types of stories are easily passed over as interesting, but not much more than that. Being a TBI survivor, though, gives you an entirely new perception on events like these. BRAVO to both of them! And to you and your wife, too!
Obligatory question, though. Were each of you born before or after their accidents? I'm not sure what difference that makes, but you mentioned a resonance between the two of you that might inexplicably be attributed to an alteration to their brains.
My skull was split down the middle from the spinal column to the bridge of my nose. I landed on the back side of my head, but the frontal lobe suffered the worst damage. It was the ricochete of my brain inside my skull that broke the frontal plate. There was a 3 mm split front to back, and that was apparently enough to accommodate the swelling, so no surgery. That split, though did cost me all feeling in my right foot, and it also severed my olfactory nerve, so no smell. My shit don't stink! There are otherr perrpetual problems, as well, such as diplopia (double vision) that refuses to go away for good. My brain just can't accommodate the vision from both eyes at the same time. I rcently had a macular (mother) pucker in my left eye, needles stuck in there to fix it, and now 24/7 fuzzies in that eye. It will eventually get better, but my brain can't handle both eyes being different. So, almost a constant sense of motion sickness and dizziness. Sucks.
My biggest regret through all of this, though, is that the trauma didn't result in any new savant abilities, like instantly being able to play the guitar or piano better than anyone else on the planet. Or being able to speak Kalahari without studying it for 20 years. That really sucks!
In retrospect, i should have tilted my head 3 degrees to the left prior to impact. THEN i'd have every savant ability i could dream of. I want a do-over!
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