by hope_full » Mon 09 Jun 2008, 10:48:13
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'T')ell that to the single Mom just maken ends meet right now. What in God's Earth do they have to be optimistic about? For those with "means" being optimist is a heck of a lot easier, huh.
I think "single moms" will become a thing of the past. Riasing children alone is way, way too hard a thing to do on one's own and I think single parenthood is an anomaly of nature and by no means, "normal."
My husband's mother was a single mom in the appalachian hills in the 1950s. Can you imagine a more difficult circumstance in America? But she lived near family and family helped provide some support. When her dollars ran out, a family member became a "boarder" providing some financial support and the family member also took care of cleaning, cooking and kids.
If I were a single mom NOW and if I had no money (and I have had both experiences in my life), I would make arrangements toDAY to relocate near loved ones or family members or near someone who could help me.
After my divorce, I lived as a boarder in someone's home (not once, but twice) and I liked it. In both cases, I became very close with the homeowner and it felt very natural and good and a whole lot less lonely. And I was able to get out of debt at that point.
Single motherhood is a creation of 20th Century and 21st Century screwed-up lifestyles. In the 19th Century, single women with children moved in with family members (which explains why old houses have so many doors - compartmentalization).
HF