by Ibon » Wed 28 Jan 2015, 09:24:34
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('SeaGypsy', ' ')Even if you marry in & learn the language & culture fluently, the assumption is that eventually you will return to where your earning capacity is greatest The ability to earn enough to be a serious benefactor to your adopted community, but to prefer not to do so, shows a failure to really integrate. Only the most extremely isolated tribal people in the world might be so naïve as to accept such a choice.
I don't doubt that Ibon & others here intimately involved in 2nd/ 3rd world communities are aware of this paradox & dilemma.
This post would best be a private message just for SeaGypsy, since we don't have many expats on this board who will find this relevant or interesting. but I will try to make this also relevant for others who might read this.
Having lived many years in Southeast Asia, Europe and Latin America, there are some important distinctions to make regarding integration. As a white guy living in the Philippines and Thailand, regardless that I married into the culture ( my wife is filipina) and that I learned the languages better than 90% of other foreigners, regardless of how much I respected the pride of the peoples I lived with, regardless of how finely tuned my cultural knowledge was, integration was never really possible. The paradox and dilemma that SeaGypsy mentions is real, the barrier however has less to do with my privileged white ass background and more to do with the stereotypes that are deeply fixed in these asian cultures regarding their views of foreigners.
Latin America is quite different. The indigenous are mainly marginalized just like in North America, with few exceptions. That means that the dominant culture here in Latin America is still European and mestizo stock and Latin cultures are immigrant cultures similar like North America. This makes integration far more easier. My mother was Italian and I have some Latin roots and I do speak Spanish almost as fluent as the native born. I can say that here in Panama we are culturally integrated just about the same as say a first generation Italian immigrant living in the US after say 10 years. He feels American and he identifies with his new culture and he is accepted. This is one of the great aspects of the Americas. Immigrants integrate quickly. There are many expats living here in Panama who do stay in their expat communities and do not learn the language and do not integrate into Panamanian culture. They are living in isolated islands and they are basically not too different from foreigners living in say Thailand. The point is if you choose to you can integrate here in the Americas because these are immigrant cultures. I also lived 10 years in Europe. I found it harder to integrate into Germany and Switzerland where I lived even though my first wife was Swiss and I spoke the local Swiss German dialect fluently. Europeans have a strong nationalism and integration there, even though you share their race and privilege, is actually not as easy as some might think. Latin America is the place where I have been the most successful in culturally integrating, probably because I share their New World roots. Also because since I was very young I was in exile to the country of my birth (USA).
We have indigenous staff here at Mount Totumas. For 7 years I have been working with my caretaker and his family. We socialize with our indigenous neighbors. My wife shares their looks more than I do and they somehow recognize my wife's humble past living in a thatched roof hut in the Philippines. When I associate with indigenous culture here in many ways I feel the familiar barrier just like I did in Asia. The indigenous however have a deeper layer of stoicism, an inherent distrust of Latinos and whites. They move in a different rhythm. Friendship and intimate personal family stuff is only shared when an organic rootedness sets in after many months and years. The friendly cliches of "Hi, how are you" etc. do not exist in indigenous cultures, I watch guests here make these efforts to reach out in friendship to my indigenous staff only to get these blank stares. If there is no organic connection and shared experience there is no small talk. Once you understand this you no longer feel uncomfortable with the silence coming back at you from interactions with the indigenous. Most foreigners misinterpret this horribly.
Now, when it comes to the disparity of wealth, life experiences and yes, privilege, I think this is somewhat universal in all cultures. There are Panamanians who will resent your wealth or try to exploit you and there are Panamanians who are inherently humble, whether privileged or not, who are trustworthy. The key is to quickly differentiate this and align yourself with honest humble folk. This is the same anywhere, even in the US which is experiencing an increasing disparity between rich and poor.
If for example, we see alternative lifestyles emerge in North America, where the privileged and the poor integrate in some kind of community living arrangement like I suggested in a post further up thread, then you would have to deal with the same issues. No matter what you say, there will always be folks whose resentment will not allow them to integrate and accept some one who is privileged, just as the privileged will never be able to cultivate the humility to win the hearts of those of less means (remember Mitt Romney).
The 21st century will be about negotiating culturally in an environment of increasing disparity. There are important social skills required. One thing I learned in living and associating with people who were far less privileged than myself was to be extremely sensitive to their pride.
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