by kublikhan » Sun 08 Apr 2012, 21:47:17
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('sunweb', 'T')here are those that think that I am a doomer. I think I am a realist.
Even being a "realist" requires you to make assumptions on situations that are often subjective. No matter how dire your situation is, there is never an advantage to giving up and losing hope. Survival has alot to do with your attitude.
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'I')f you're allowing your pessimism to prevail, you're slowly killing yourself.
Many people consider "realism" the best position on this scale. But being a "realist" means making an assumption. You're assuming you understand "reality". In fact, as we'll see in future articles on this website, "reality" is often subjective. What you think you see is often not what you're really looking at. And because of that, "realists" tend to assume a more negative outlook than most situations warrant.
Imagine you're facing a life-threatening situation. Put yourself on the Titanic. You've just hit an iceberg and your ship has gone down. Now you find yourself in icy waters with no more rescue boats in the middle of a dark, empty Atlantic ocean.
Consider how each of the attitudes would face the problem:
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The cynic would give up hope, and expect death. As a result, he'd feel the cold of the water much more immediately, and would succumb the quickest.
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The pessimist would assume the worst, but would fight to stay alive. But by assuming the worst, he'd mentally compound every negative thing that happened — it's all affirming his belief that he's unlikely to survive. He'd still have hope, but the despair would give the elements the upper hand.
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The realist would look at the "reality" of the situation. Since it would be statistically unlikely for a boat to find and save him, his presumption (and rightly so) would be that he's in a dire situation with little hope for survival.
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The idealist would assume that everything was going to be okay. As a result, he might ignore warning signs like the coldness of the water, hypothermia, the subtle nuances of action that might save his life. He is actually less likely to work as hard as needed to save himself.
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The optimist would take serious stock of his situation, and factor in all of the negatives he faces. But his optimism would give him hope — that if he holds out long enough, he will survive. The optimist will fight the hardest for his own survival, yet still deal with the full severity of the situation.
THE SAME GOES FOR EVERYDAY LIFEWe don't have to dunk you in the icy ocean to prove that point. In fact, a study in 2004 of nearly 1,000 people found that optimists have a 23% reduction of the risk of heart disease, and a 55% reduction in all causes of death. Think about that. Just by being optimistic about your life, you reduce your risk of many different life-threatening diseases.
A more recent study of nearly 100,000 women over the age of 50 found that the optimists were 30% less likely to die of heart disease. Optimists have a better chance of living longer.