by spudbuddy » Mon 04 Dec 2006, 11:34:09
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Shannymara', 'T')hanks, spudbuddy. I have a 3 year old and I'm constantly having to say and do things to attempt to offset the fear and control most people exert. I hope it's having some positive impact on him. It's not easy, protecting him from vehicles and toxins while at the same time trying to preserve his wild nature. Quite a fine line to walk. Meanwhile we also have to concern ourselves with legal issues. What a mess... It's hard to find ways to let your kids be human these days.

"Harmless mischief" was more than just a Huck Finn fantasy back then - it was kind of a rite of passage for many.
Our world is extremely child-unfriendly (for all the family value rhetoric).
Kids don't "make" our world - (they sure brighten it up, though).
That job is left to adults.
Which raises an interesting question:
What kind of power have we relinquished, as parents, as citizens - to the re-designers of our public domain?
Main street used to be where kids went - browsing comic book stands, toy shelves, 5 and dime junk, movie posters, back alleys, (while making fun of billing and cooing teenagers after-schooling behind diner plate glass.)
This all sounds very Rockwellian, I know......
But there it is. Now they don't go anywhere without the vehicularly omnipresent supervised correction.
All that mad energy used to burn a lot of calories - in spite of all the junk we consumed. (I was pretty voracious back then - I think a lot of kids were - we were like small omnivorous bears - browsing and sluicing our way through the infrastructure - the world was our oyster bar, our smorgasboard, slops bucket, feedbag.)
Every class had one (1) fat kid - usually teased but hardly ever ostracised. Somehow we just decided it was bad gonads or something.
Although teckie-toys seduce a lot of kids into passive sit-down play, sometimes I wonder how I can blame them, when their world is so restricted.
If I had ever had to wait until I was old enough to drive before I gained any kind of independent mobility, I would have gone mad, I think....
Adults were ok - but the need to ramble....lurks deep in the heart of childhood.
(and if it doesn't - why is that?)
All us oldsters wondering how we survived all the dumb things we did as youngsters - do we remember great fear over that? Of course not.
Fear is a big industry now. Jumping at shadows.
I don't believe for a second that the dangers present back then were as great as those that exist today. Any parent's worst nightmare is real enough. We can be thankful we're not trying to raise kids in northern Thailand...
Somewhere in America, a school banned playing tag in its schoolyard. Risk management. Liability and doctor's bills.
What next? Virtual tag?
Children are wild things, after all. Tamed by the long slow process of working their way up the ladder to adulthood.
Or will they resemble the performing bears in a Russian circus?
Maybe the saddest thing of all - remembering a time when even the poorest kids around had beaucoups of toys. The best toys were junk no-one wanted. A climbing tree. A lookout that cost nothing but the energy it took to climb the hill.
Before hitting the beach - a quick trip to the local service station to beg a used inner tube from the tire man. Rafts on the river, made out of driftwood, logs and old planks, knocked together with rusty nails and a rock.
Didn't have a dog? Wanted a dog?
Just walk down the back lane and whistle. In short order the closest lonesome mutt would come posting to close attention in short order - dog for the day.
I was always "borrowing" bikes....would always return them to the exact spot....they were never locked. I actually learned how to ride on an ancient 30-inch standard....my feet a good foot off the ground while sitting.
Life needs to get the hell off the plasma screen and back into bricks and mortar, I think.