by vision-master » Sun 20 Apr 2008, 12:50:10
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Lumpy', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('jasonraymondson', 'I') am currently ill-prepared. I have several talents and skills that should benefit me, but I know I am lacking in a lot of areas, I am wondering how everybody else feels and how much further they need to go to be completely prepared.
Jason - First I want to say something directly to you. Several weeks ago I put you on "ignore". I can't even remember what it was about, but you were one of only three people on that list for me -- so you must have posted something that really got me p.o'ed (no pun intended.)
However, when I say the title of this thread, and saw patience's response, I unignored you, because this seemed like an important question, and I wanted to be able to read what you had started here.
This IS an important question, and I thank you for asking it ... it is especially timely in my life right now.
Now ... on to my response.
Patience said something that really hit home: the importance of not being too dependent on one person in the group. That is the scariest thing for me right now, because I am the only person bringing in money. My husband quit his job, and is working hard to get our farm place into sustainability -- but we were "book smart"and "experience challenged" when we moved out here almost 3 years ago. We really had no firm idea as to how much everything was going to cost, and how much there was to be done.
Example: There was this lovely tall plant with lacey leaves growing all over the place -- maybe 4.5 - 5 of the 7.5 acres covered with it. The seller didn't bother to tell us, nor did the real estate agent (who is country born and bred) that it is poison hemlock. The amount of time, energy, and money that has gone into just beating that noxious weed into submission has been incredible.
As I have mentioned before, the land here had been neglected for many years. So there was/is much to be done. We are blessed to have a year round big creek that borders the property, and year round small spring-fed creek that runs through the property (spring is not on our property) and our own artesian well. The land is very fertile, but with areas that are rock, rock, rock -- from some time in the distant past when the path of the big creek was different. Also, the most fertile (organic content high) part of the land is also the most clay-heavy. So there is much amendment to be done as we go along.
Anyway, that gives you just a brief (doesn't look brief, does it?

) idea of some of the stuff we have been up against thus far. Stuff we weren't really fully prepared for beyond an "intellectual level" -- and some of which we didn't even know about. Thus my husband quit his job to work this place full time. And thus we are in the unenviable position of knowing that if I got in a car wreck tomorrow and broke my leg and couldn't work for a month, we would be in trouble, financially. We have poured basically all our reserve funds into this place, trying to get it ready as fast as possible.
On the other hand, here is what we have going for us:
1. We are in our 50's and understand very, very well what is needed - preparation wise.
2. I practice medicine, and that's obviously going to be a skill that will go on being needed. (On the minus side, my speciality is now psychiatry, so I HAVE to find the time to continue working, while completing a 2nd speciality in family practice -- which will be the mandatory branch of medicine in the future. Not that I can't deliver babies, etc, now ... but I need more training/experience in family practice.)
3. My husband is excellent at envisioning functional designs -- e.g. our self-built irrigation system for our orchard. Would have cost us thousands to have it put it .... we built is for a couple of hundred.
4. We own a lot of guns - not enough - but a lot.
5. We gave up TV when we moved to the farm - and don't miss it at all. We are non-mainstream consumers ... so not having a mall to go to is no big deal to us!
6. Two of our four kids are grown men - one married with a 4 year old and a 2 year old. The other still unattached. The married one can do all kinds of building work - carpentry, painting, dry wall, etc. He is used to running crews of up to 90 guys in the commercial painting business. He is a very hard worker - and meticulous. The unmarried one works with his brother, but is a trained motorcycle mechanic, and one of those people who can fix anything mechanical. The best part (putting a positive spin on it) is that neither of them is getting steady work these days, and they are all (including wife of eldest) increasingly thankful that we were led to buy this farm - because they recognize where the world is headed. In fact, in 6 weeks we have a sit down meeting planned - to decide how we are going to make it all happen. Who is going to sleep where (we are going to have to find a cheap travel trailer to accomodate the younger son) until we have found the money and time to build a small extension on to the house (attached by a breezeway to the "big house", to meet county regulations regarding only one dwelling on the property), where my husband and I will live.
7. When those guys get down here, there will be three men to work on projects here, plus the two sons to find work for money off the farm insofar as possible.
How are we UNPREPARED:
1. Not enough food stored yet.
2. Not enough guns/ammo yet.
3. Not enough medical supplies stored yet.
4. Concerns regarding medications that my husband and I take, and that our eldest son must have.
5. Husband and I need to get prescription glasses updated, and a 2nd pair made for each of us.
6. Need more blankets
7. Cold room not built yet -- in fact, many projects not complete yet. (It will be great to have the other two men here.)
Also, and perhaps of greatest importance, I don't think any of us in the family are yet psychologically/emotionally prepared for three generations under one roof. There are bound to be some hard times with all the strong personalities and limited space in the beginning. (They have lived with us for up to a month before ... and it wasn't easy.)
There are a lot of things we have to "hash out". Who is in charge of what? And especially among the men, there is bound to be jockying for position - pecking order - wolf pack stuff. You know what I mean.
(I should mention that my husband is their step-dad -- and we have only been married four years, so the sons (in their 30's) are not accustomed to automatically acquiesing to his decisions as the "father-person".)
They are going to have a problem giving up TV sports. We don't smoke, and don't want it around us. The sons both smoke. That's going to be an issue. Stuff like that.
Daughter (in-law) is ready to take over cleaning and upkeep of the house. (She is a stay at home Mom now.) Cooking duties will be shared.
I will continue to practice medicine.
We plan to home-school the grandkids (these two plus any more that come along when second son gets married) as a family.
So we have this is the best of scenarios (we have land, house, water, orchard, garden, chickens, pigs, horses, and family) -- and we have a difficult scenario with working out the intra-family stuff.
So how prepared are we? Well, we have the raw material. But now we have to bring it together in a "workable/working format". At least we all in the family recognize/know that this is the ONLY way everyone is going to make it -- pulling together.
Wish us luck -- please pray for us, all of you who pray -- and please, provide any thought about how we might go about approaching this "bringing together" in the best way.
Lumpy
PS - Youngest kid working toward nursing degree. He will come back and forth to the farm over the years, we expect, but we don't think he will settle here. He should always have work, though, with medical background. Next to youngest kid (girl) married into family with money. She and husband live in city with their one preschooler -- and are much more connected to husband's family. So we are anticipating they will try to find a way to make it by banding together with his big family.