by WildRose » Wed 04 Oct 2006, 22:22:58
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('PenultimateManStanding', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('WildRose', 'I')'ve observed a cultural shift on the playgrounds over the past 15 or 20 years as a volunteer for the public school system. There is almost zero tolerance for rough play - no wrestling, no sliding down a hill in the snow and bumping into anyone else, no pretending to do a karate kick. The kids even have to be careful not to "tag" someone else too roughly.
I've watched lots of kids play at my house over the years and I know that boys, especially, have a need for this rough play. Of course, as a parent I don't like to see anyone really get hurt, but I think the odd bump while playing has to be expected. These same kids, though they enjoy wrestling and playing football and inventing wild games in the bushes, are also content to watch a good drama on TV or spend an hour drawing.
I had a kid get dropped from my class today for throwing carrots at other kids during the break of an intersession class. A boy of course. I suppose it didn't help him that they came to me to ask about him, "how's he doing, what sort of behavior?" I told them the truth, he's lazy, failing the tests, does no work and cheats and lies." One of the kids asked me, "Who did you just execute?" Can't say I'm sorry he's gone. He needed the credit to graduate from high school and he was acting like a total screw up. One thing I have found, if you do the self-contained good cop, bad cop routine, the kids respect it. If you are only nice, they take advantage of you. I've seen kids give me the evil eye when I get mad and then become more motivated. It's strange. They will even say goodbye to you at the end of the day.
PMS, I agree that kids need to know where you (as a teacher, parent or supervisor) stand on issues of conduct and expectations; and yes, I have also found that they are generally more respectful towards adults who hold them accountable for their behavior.
However, I wasn't commenting on kids showing defiant behavior or acting out, but rather just the fact that the rough-housing type of play that used to be considered normal in boys is now not permitted, and maybe that's taking away from their normal development.