by Outcast_Searcher » Mon 11 Oct 2021, 16:18:37
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')I do think jealousy is a large part of the resentment. The fact is when I moved here back in 2010 the family owned the local butcher shop and were doing well for themselves. Then a couple years later they bought a closed convenience store and reopened it and that was actually seen as a good thing as it was in competition with the local grocery store/subway/gas station on the main intersection through town where the two heaviest traffic roads cross. Then about five years ago someone built a Dollar General just outside the village limits and started undercutting the local grocery store prices and the owners decided to call it quits. When they did the prominent family rode to the rescue and bought the grocery store/subway/gas station and lowered prices to be competitive on the products the Dollar General carries like milk and cleaning supplies, soda and beer. The lower prices made just about everyone happy for a while, but now that the other filling station which is also the only real auto shop for repairs in town is going to close we will be at the mercy of having a single fuel supplier and nobody expects that to be a good thing.
The really odd thing to me who is still seen as something of an outsider even after living here 11 years is that the family buying up all these distressed businesses has been in this town for generations. Most of the people living here grew up with them, went to school with them or their kids and many are at least tangentially related to them. The fact that they have managed to prosper when many other local businesses have failed seems to generate more resentment because they are local folks. I honestly expected the out of towners who built the Dollar General franchise outlet to get a lot of heat locally but the exact opposite seems to have happened.
Unlike many of the folks around here I grew up in a small town where everyone knew who was what level in the social hierarchy. The thing is once you or your family was pigeonholed into a level of social status you were expected to stay right there. Women who married into a higher strata were considered gold diggers even if they went away to university and came back with a degree that tentatively placed them at an equal status to the family they married in to. Men who wanted to "marry up" in level had to be significantly prominent socially by being a school sport hero, or coming back to town as an MD/DDS/DO or other upper level job like being a district attorney through the court system. Generally speaking factory or farm laborers were beneath the social upper crust women's notice for long term relationships or marriage.
Huh I just realized the practical issues I brought up earlier have morphed into a sociology study

I think I said enough to make myself unpopular if any of my neighbors ever joins this place and figures out who I am so I will shut up now ROFL!
To me (and yes, I'm QUITE the geek, to the extent of not being ashamed of it), that's all fascinating and somewhat enlightening.
I was brought up in a moderate sized city. My girlfriend, who I ran into in college, was a small town girl, so I learned about small town attitudes somewhat intimately, by driving up and spending weekends with her for 30+ years, listening, reading their local paper, etc.
Like when I mentioning to my dad that her mom was a good cook, and he said straight away that I'd probably be in the local paper. (I wasn't, in that case). Assuming he was teasing me, I started reading the paper, and sure enough, there were brief "stories", re "family X going to family Y's house, for dinner". I might be wrong here, but when my girlfriend died, I wanted to post a letter thanking everyone from the church, her neighbors, etc. for all their support, as I dealt with all the aftermath. The paper was happy to publish my letter, for a $20 or so fee. So if everyone wanting such a "story" about dinners written PAID the paper for that, I find it bizarre. But I also found "fried green tomatoes" as a dish bizarre (but good), when first served them, and I was sure they were just teasing the city boy, so there's that.
I think, being clueless, what I mostly missed was the extent of the "stay in your class" idea. Suddenly, I am more sympathetic to her family's obsession with clothes, and her general intolerance about me caring about clothes NOT AT ALL, for example. (I learned that this was true historically, like in Europe. Not so much in the modern world where, supposedly, people are free and that shouldn't matter).
It's fascinating, re how you end up re values, education, etc. can be LARGELY determined by where you happened to grow up, for a huge proportion of people, vs. how hard you work, etc. I was raised to place a HUGE premium on hard work and honesty, which paid off for me, but perhaps mostly by being raised in a city.
Damn. Now, multiply that by thousands of other significant random factors (which most of us are likely unaware of), and life seems more like rolling dice, even before you get old enough to likely have significant health problems.
Given the track record of the perma-doomer blogs, I wouldn't bet a fast crash doomer's money on their predictions.