[WildRose]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('like_the_dinosaurs', 'S')he's also at that age of wanting to experience the world so I dont know

[RedStateGreen]

You can't force someone to share or love your life. There has to be some sort of commitment there. If she wants to leave let her go. She's already cheating on you, and that's not going to stop just because you move with her. You're just financing her affairs.

I think telling her she can go if she wants will shake her up some, make her think about what she's doing. She might come back with some sort of compromise. If not, she's too immature to be able to sustain a real relationship and you're probably better off finding someone else.

I'm sorry this is happening, I hope it works out for you.

[like_the_dinosaurs]

I thank everyone here for there advice. It's helped me understand my decision.

[skyemoor]

Have you thought about an Intentional Community or a Transition Town? This came up in a thread about someone moving from Ozland to NZ http://peakoil.com/post803283.html#803283

If you don't want to move to NZ, then there's at least one Transition Town in Oz, and other Sustainable Communities. If being around people is needed, are you able to look at these options?

[like_the_dinosaurs]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('skyemoor', 'H')ave you thought about an Intentional Community or a Transition Town? This came up in a thread about someone moving from Ozland to NZ http://peakoil.com/post803283.html#803283

If you don't want to move to NZ, then there's at least one Transition Town in Oz, and other Sustainable Communities. If being around people is needed, are you able to look at these options?

[Newfie]

I'd love to help but I'm off to the Marriage Councilor in 10 minutes.

BTW -
20-years invested. 2nd marriage.
She is PO aware.
She wants to stay here and "fix things."
You know, make the world right.
Sheesh!
And good luck.

[SuperTico]

Too many yunguns on here.
Let the bimbo go. In a crisis you don't want a " partner" ( ball and chain, literally).
If you need poontang go drop a few dollars on some and get back to being focused. The coming years are reality.
Some bimbo with a mommy and booze problem is just a bad trip.

[like_the_dinosaurs]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('SuperTico', 'T')oo many yunguns on here.
Let the bimbo go. In a crisis you don't want a " partner" ( ball and chain, literally).
If you need poontang go drop a few dollars on some and get back to being focused. The coming years are reality.
Some bimbo with a mommy and booze problem is just a bad trip

[Ronin]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('like_the_dinosaurs', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('SuperTico', 'T')oo many yunguns on here. Let the bimbo go.
In a crisis you don't want a " partner" ( ball and chain, literally).
If you need poontang go drop a few dollars on some and get back to being focused.
The coming years are reality.Some bimbo with a mommy and booze problem is just a bad trip.

[threadbear]

Looks like social isolation to me. I live on a small island, population 2,000. I refer to the Island as "Guy"land, because men love it, but a lot of women need hustle bustle and social vibrancy, not to mention access to shopping. If your partner is the type who just misses the shopping, let her go, by all means. Don't feel bad, feel lucky. If it's a social movie/theatre problem, see if you can find a cheap apartment in town to get away to for a week or two, every few months.

[blukatzen]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('threadbear', ' ')but a lot of women need hustle bustle and social vibrancy, not to mention access to shopping.

[threadbear]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('blukatzen', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('threadbear', ' ')but a lot of women need hustle bustle and social vibrancy, not to mention access to shopping.

[alokin]

I would not give my partner up for preps. What's live worth being alone?
And she seems really to love you the way she hurts herself.
Maybe there is a possibility moving elsewhere, not to Brisbane and not were you are now, a smaller town. Maybe its not the place but something else. I would rather suggest doing some partnership consultancies (however this is called).
And maybe she wants children or has still a huge problem.
And maybe you could make an arrangement that she lives half the time in BRisbane, earns money for preps and comes out the other half and you would still be a couple.

[canuckinczech]

Sounds like some good advice out there.
I had a situation in my life which may be of interest to you, granted no two situations are the same. However , my situation sounds close enough to be worth comment.

I was seeing a woman who seems to be a very similar character type as your partner. She was my first love, we were together 8 years, during that time I realized that that N. America was becoming an increasingly volitile place to be in. I forced a move , believing that it was the smartest thing to do to prepare us both...Unfortunately, the right place to be, happened to be to a similiar enviroment she grew up with, resistance.

For love, I moved back to N. America for her. I put too much faith and expectation in our relationship... I found out she was sleeping around. Heatbroken, I left, I returned to my original plan. Within a year, back where I believed I should be, a woman came along who amazingly shared the same beliefs as myself...she came for the same reasons,...she became the love of my life.

We are now married, have 2 wonderful kids...and are building a future that we BOTH believe in.

All relationships need work...however, it is very dangerous to inflict your beliefs on someone who is not ready, or may never be ready. There is such a stong tendency to want to protect the ones you love with what you percieve as the logical path. The hard thing to come to terms with, is that, some people just prefere a different path ...even if they know it will probably lead them to a cliff.

[alokin]

czech yes, you're right. I think a partnership must be based on a compatible world view. If your partner don't believe in PO but likes a green lifestyle that's OK, because the foundation of thought are the same.
I think for me it would be difficult living with someone who does not agree with my lifestyle, who wants to buy a posh car, a four bdr house and all this stuff. The aims you're working for are simply different. Especially if you have kids.

[outcast]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'I')ts also my fault too, I've kind of neglected her because of PO.

[galacticsurfer]

My wife complains as I am not a big man with lots of money as she came from Russia and lots of people there expect everyon in The West have a certain lifestyle you see on TV but she is used ot making ends meet and flexible in terms similar to say a Mexican or Philippino, etc. wife I imagine if forced into a bad situation so the basis is good or even better from her side as she has more practical survival knowledge from childhood when the crash really hits. So as I don't know how bad it will get and don't have money to "get out of Dodge" I have done little in terms of Prep but we are essentially very flexible in our entire basic mental structure (poor bastards growing up with lots of book learning).

[canuckinczech]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('galacticsurfer', 'M')y wife complains as I am not a big man with lots of money as she came from Russia and lots of people there expect everyon in The West have a certain lifestyle you see on TV but she is used ot making ends meet and flexible in terms similar to say a Mexican or Philippino, etc. wife I imagine if forced into a bad situation so the basis is good or even better from her side as she has more practical survival knowledge from childhood when the crash really hits. So as I don't know how bad it will get and don't have money to "get out of Dodge" I have done little in terms of Prep but we are essentially very flexible in our entire basic mental structure (poor bastards growing up with lots of book learning).

[SuperTico]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('like_the_dinosaurs', '')$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('SuperTico', 'T')oo many yunguns on here.
Let the bimbo go. In a crisis you don't want a " partner" ( ball and chain, literally).
If you need poontang go drop a few dollars on some and get back to being focused.
The coming years are reality. Some bimbo with a mommy and booze problem is just a bad trip

[Ronin]

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('like_the_dinosaurs', 'I') thank everyone here for there advice. It's helped me understand my decision.