by I_Like_Plants » Mon 28 May 2007, 15:09:03
Joe - this is the same reason I strongly advised a friend of mine, who's old, to move to Vietnam. He's got a friend who moved back there, Vietnamese, who got sick and tired of the big con and rat-race the US is. Lucky him, he has a place to go back to. I got to talk to Trang a bit before he left, and we were both looking at each other going "Wow! You have to work so damned hard here!! Mom, Dad, everyone!". I feel my 70-year old friend would be MUCH better off over there with his essentially adopted family than here - so medicine is 30 years out of date, they'll drag ya to the hospital instead of letting you die in an alley like it is here, never getting the benefit of up-to-date medicine. But I have, apparently, a thing against the "bwana" attitude, which probably has a lot to do with ME.
You see, I grew up in Hawaii which in many places is trying to be "more Roman than the Romans" like you find at any outpost at the edge of Empire. But the place is ineffecient enough that a lot of pre-Empire ways of doing things remain. One thing is that the average person lives a lot more modestly than on the Mainland - a lot. Like, people who've never owned a car their entire lives, people living in rooming houses which are still a social institution there, etc. Everyone young wants to go to the Mainland though, and that included me. I got a chance to leave (there was no way I'd ever save up enough money on my own, a company moved me) and took it in the mid 80s. I thought I was going to be rich! Since I'd been told over and over again how expensive Hawaii is, I actually believed that in a year or two, I'd be able to buy first, a nice Toyota truck, then start looking at a house!
This turned out not to be. I turned from a good saver into someone who lived hand to mouth, and often pawned stuff to get by at the end of the month. One day I and my Vietnamese and Cambodian co-workers all sat around and looked at each other in astonishment, "What's going on here? Everyone has to work so hard! The mother, the father, the kids..... Back in Cambodia, the father works, that's it!" Hawaii's about halfway between the two extremes - in California you're fucked unless you have a damn good paying job. People who lose that end up working two jobs.... Hawaii can be like that, but you can also live on min. wage there. Not live like an American thinks they're entitled to, but live ok. I know, I did it.
So, in 2003 I get tired of the Empire and move back. Lo and behold I decide I needed a car and buy a big old Volvo wagon. That car would cost me, in the end, $1000 a month to own! Since I had a car, now I had to look for an apartment that had parking, and turned my nose up at perfectly nice rooms for $200-$300 a month. No parking. I ended up with a $600 a month place in Waikiki plus $100 a month more for parking..... Plus, I never drove the car that much because there's no parking most places! All the nifty little thrift shops etc I planned to find stuff at to put on Ebay, had no parking, so I had a hell of a time trying to make a living. I lasted 4 months. I fled and went up here to Silicon Valley, rang up huge debt getting started up here again, and now am in despair of ever paying that off. I may well end up back in Hawaii, playing music for tips on the street or drawing people, living on as little as possible, and hoping the prisons are too crowded to put me in one, as a debtor.
Even though I'd grown up there, I sure got away from my frugal roots. I moved back there trying to make the place work according to my Mainland rules, and I was not willing to live as I had before, according to its rules. I'd lived quite well on $5 an hour, before. The irony is that as mentioned I will probably have to flee to there, because it's the one place I know that I can live quite cheaply, and where I have people I actually care about. I can tell you it's a mind-twister to go back and find people I've not seen for 20 years, who greet me, know me, oh too bad we already rented out that room, etc. All the years I've lived on the mainland, there just hasn't been that feeling. Maybe if I were from out in Iowa or something, but I'm not. If I were, I guess I'd go back there.
So, I guess my desire to "fix" the place, in my own case to try to live Mainland style, sure didn't work.
And Hawaii is not perfect - everyone there sees all the advertising, they all want a new car, they all want to move to the Mainland and live in a huge house, etc. They don't realize as Monte says, all this STUFF is killing us! And "the natives" whereever you are, are taught that their own stuff, their own handicrafts, house-building techniques, etc are inferior, what's really good is some pressure-treated lumber and corrugated tin shipped in thousands of miles, that you have to go into debt for life for....