by pedalling_faster » Sat 07 Mar 2009, 12:24:35
$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Ferretlover', 'I') suspect those who voted that their careers did not define them were not all being truthful--if they Really thought about it.
When those who define themselves by their careers lose those careers.... well, it is not going to be a pretty sight. It can be a daunting task to redefine one's self while trying to deal with increased stress.
true. it can be about as pleasant as being skinned alive - and then living.
on the other hand, learning to set goals for yourself, finding healthy things to focus on, finding community outside of the corporate world - those are so worth doing.
i talked with my next door neighbor in San Diego, a retired Navy captain, about this same subject. he said he missed the caramaraderie of working with people on challenging projects - as did i.
the experience i had when i left my last corporate job in 2004, a lot of people are having that experience now. for me there were things-i'm-not-at-liberty-to-discuss that made it additionally stressful. but for a lot of these people - e.g. my older brother, a VP in the real estate division at Morgan Stanley - his entire worldview is currently being challenged.
i've been expecting this downturn vaguely since about 2002, and with some specificity since about 2004 - that makes it less difficult to live through. my older brother is not only at danger of losing his job & home - he has the additional stressors of watching the system he believes so much in come cascading down.
maybe a lot of people have "additional stressors".
i think there is benefit in moving to a position of strength. e.g., finding/ creating a situation where you're dealing with the laws of nature & physics, as opposed to some corporate machinations that involve elaborate schemes with little intrinsic value.
i think in general, if you follow the practice of taking things a step at a time, and NOT WAITING to do the stuff you know you need to do (e.g., dealing with the possible failure of a bank), you will be sufficiently ahead of actual events to survive with your tools & health intact (knock on wood

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