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Death, how do you feel about it?

Scaces the hell out of me
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It's inevitable, but some fear
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No fear, believe in after life
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No fear, why worry about what you can't control?
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Looking forward to it, life sucks
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby smallpoxgirl » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 02:57:44

Honestly...scares the hell out of me. Pain doesn't scare me. Being uncomfortable as I die, doesn't scare me. Being dead scares me. Actually, it's not being dead that scares me. It's the absence of being alive that scares me. I like being alive. It's really a cool experience. I think it's absolutely intriguing to watch it all unfold. Life feels to me like 100 pages out of the middle of a novel. If you study hard, you can deduce some of what went on towards the front of the book. The ending, that's complete unknown. I don't like the concept that I'll never know how so many things turned out.

Also I'm a pretty cerebral person. Learning new stuff is a big defining aspect of how I see myself. The idea that all that stuff that I spent so much time learning, in the end it's gonna be nothing more than a snack for some earthworms. That's a pretty hard idea for me to stomach.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby hope_full » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 06:34:23

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'a')nybody seen that video about a brain doctor who has a stroke and could have died?
everybody I mention it too has seen it.
she made dying, having a stroke seem very pleasant.


I went to youtube and searched but found nothing. Could you provide a link?
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby bl00k » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 07:58:21

I'm not afraid of death, i'd be sad if i'd die 'young', but no fear. I'm more afraid of becoming handicapped in some way, paralysed for example, than death. I'm not sure how i feel about it in the future but right now i'd rather be dead than handicapped which restricts my movement and freedom.

Sure i like being alive, life's good for me right now, and i'm certainly not suicidal, far from it. But why fear something that's inevitable? I don't know what 'is' for me after my death, therefor the only thing that makes sense is to not fear it. I don't fear the unknown.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby BigTex » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 08:15:14

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('killJOY', 'J')ust yesterday...

I was carrying our brand new calf from the field where it was born back to the barn. As I was passing the grave of our old horse, which we had put down a month ago, I noticed movement--

I poked with a stick--

There was this liquid bubbling, and a vile smell. Flies.

I came back later and noticed a huge sinkhole, with a hurricane of flies coming out of it. The horse carcass was boiling in the heat. It was awful.

I dumped a can of lime into the hole and then raked dirt into it to stop the smell.

"That's me," I thought.

I hate it.


I had the experience a few years ago of watching my dad deteriorate and then succumb to cancer. My relationship with him was easily the closest I am likely ever to have with another person. He died at home and I sat with his body for a while until the funeral home came to pick it up. You learn a lot during times like that. Whatever happens after death (and it may be that nothing happens, I don't know), the body is truly just a shell. All of the beauty of life is the way in which we animate our flesh, it's not the flesh itself.

For me, it was a humbling but strangely refreshing insight.

Smallpoxgirl, as a physician, I assume you've spent plenty of time around dead bodies and have watched people pass away. Have you learned anything that you didn't already know from seeing that process up close?

The thing that I always think is sad is when a person is ill and his/her loved ones do not realize that it's terminal and when the person dies it's especially jarring to the family. I talked to my dad's oncologists a lot while he was ill, and I could tell that they were glad that I knew the score so that when it came time to have the unpleasant conversations what the doctors had to say didn't come as a complete shock.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby idomar » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 08:23:47

I am not scared of dying, I am sick of being told the way in which I will die by the British Gov't.

Thier unhealthy obsession with making people live longer only adds to the annoyance. In a radio show called The Now Show on BBC Radio 4 Good British Comedy
they comment that after WWII life expectancy was 68 yrs and the occurence of cancer was 18%, today life expectancy is 78 years and cancer rates are 36%, so we now live longer just to catch cancer.

They want us to live longer so that we can live in poverty in our dotage, now that's logic.

The most unbelievable manifestation of death avoidance is the Health and Safety Executive, due to litigation prevention and ensuring that no one comes to any harm doing anything there are now risk assessments for everything.

example: I was putting some archive boxes onto the top shelf of a filing cabinet by....shock, horror.....lifting the box over my head and putting it on the shelf. The HSE nazi at work, 'spotted' me doing this and I was summoned to attend, LADDER USE TRAINING!!

I then had to sit through a 30 minute training 'workshop' on how to file archive boxes on the top shelf using a ladder. I was instructed to use both hands to climb the ladder until I reached the top, stable platform.

Question, How do I carry the box AND climb the ladder with both hands holding on for safety?

Question, I am 6'2" the top of the Filing cabinet is 6'10", the ceilng is 7'6", the ladder is 3' to the top stable platform?

Answer, just sign the form to say that you were trained, OK!

Read, you cant sue us if you dont use the facilities provided, you were 'trained'.

Screw it, I want an entry in the Darwin Awards!
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby darwinsdog » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 09:20:13

The Ocean Planet is a wet space rock infested with an organic redox scum we call "life." We are part of that scum. Anything that can be characterized by autocatalysis & self-replication can be considered to be "alive." Selection occurs inexorably because self-replication is never perfect. Elements of low atomic mass (Fe is an exception) cycle thru the biogeochemosphere on various periods, various dwell times in the biosphere, lithosphere, hydrosphere, atmosphere... Some would consider the planet itself to be "alive." Is the xylem of a tree alive? Is your hair, mineral bone, keratinized epidermis... alive? How about a given carbon atom in a functional enzyme - is it "alive." What about that same carbon atom after you rot & it becomes carbon dioxide? We are dying continuously. Apoptosis or "programmed cell death" begins in the early embryo. Cells are dying by the billions in your bodies right now. What even is this thing called "you," that you may/may not be afraid of it dying? Is it the mere purveyor of your ancestors' genes or is it something "special"? How do you know? This thread is stupid.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby manu » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 09:29:02

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('darwinsdog', 'T')he Ocean Planet is a wet space rock infested with an organic redox scum we call "life." We are part of that scum. Anything that can be characterized by autocatalysis & self-replication can be considered to be "alive." Selection occurs inexorably because self-replication is never perfect. Elements of low atomic mass (Fe is an exception) cycle thru the biogeochemosphere on various periods, various dwell times in the biosphere, lithosphere, hydrosphere, atmosphere... Some would consider the planet itself to be "alive." Is the xylem of a tree alive? Is your hair, mineral bone, keratinized epidermis... alive? How about a given carbon atom in a functional enzyme - is it "alive." What about that same carbon atom after you rot & it becomes carbon dioxide? We are dying continuously. Apoptosis or "programmed cell death" begins in the early embryo. Cells are dying by the billions in your bodies right now. What even is this thing called "you," that you may/may not be afraid of it dying? Is it the mere purveyor of your ancestors' genes or is it something "special"? How do you know? This thread is stupid.


Only the intelligent will ponder death. The dumbed down peeple will just go on with "ignorance is bliss", untill they meet their painful exit from the body. Yes, the material body is always dying, and the spirit soul remains constant, because it is spiritual in nature. It lives on eternally.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby Olaf » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 09:38:14

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('Precipice', 'S')ome times I fear it, sometimes I feel eerily peaceful about it, and sometimes I both fear it and feel eerily peaceful about it.

I think what really adds to the fear is the sheer incomprehensibility (especially from an emotional pov) of going unconscious and then never waking up ever again.


This explains my thought processes on it fairly well. I often find myself very contemplative of:

how I'll die
will I be afraid
will it hurt
what will come after
will anything come after
Will I have a consciousness
will I get to come back

Then I think, well whatever is going to happen, shall, and I can't change it one bit. For certain I will die, and the world will continue as it did before I was here. I don't have a recollection of suckiness before I was born so...

I live my life as best I can, try to enjoy it, plan to stick around as long as I can; and hope, in the end, I die well.

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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby lper100km » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 09:50:38

Sh*t happens.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby mmasters » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 10:30:41

I chose #3

I think we're all infinate beings temporarily trapped in this world because we went down a bad path.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby smallpoxgirl » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 10:42:02

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('BigTex', 'S')mallpoxgirl, as a physician, I assume you've spent plenty of time around dead bodies and have watched people pass away. Have you learned anything that you didn't already know from seeing that process up close?


I guess that denial doesn't make it any easier. That if it's gonna happen, far better that it happen at home with loved ones around than in an ICU with alarms squalling and people zapping you with electricity. Also, I guess that there are things worse than death in the world and to experience them you have to be either in a torture camp somewhere or in a hospital. Dying in an ICU strikes me as being the worst possible thing that could happen to a person. It's a difficult enough thing without turning it into a torture circus.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby CarlinsDarlin » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 10:59:34

Tex,
You are correct. I was also with my father as he passed away. He spent a bit of time in hospice care at home prior to his passing. I watched his deterioration for the year prior to that, though. Once a person has passed, all that is left is the shell. I actually get great comfort from the idea that we are made up of body, soul, and spirit. The body may die, but that is not the end of us. Once he passed away, all that was in front of me was the "shell" as you called it. What makes us, "us" is not the outside shell. It's the inside spirit.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby allenwrench » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 11:11:07

It's inevitable, but some fear...


We all have the same basic survival instinct in common with one another. Now none of us will be ultimate survivors, we all have to die one day. But the successful survivor extends his or her life beyond an earlier death...a death that was caused by ignorance of how to make that life last longer.

The Taoists have a saying, "fleas come with the dog."

So, I accept there are growth pains as a fair trade off for the privilege of living. But no matter how you slice it, death is tough business for sure.

My mother and father are dying from old age, just as all of us will be sooner or later. Some of us reading this will never even get to old age before we die as well. It is good to be grateful for each day given to us ... rain or shine.

I am always amused by those that are in despair from a rainy day or the snow. I had a couple of close to death experiences and when you recover from them you are grateful for any day irrespective of the weather.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby darwinsdog » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 12:16:18

Tell you what, then: Build a spirit trap, catch one & let me photograph, weigh, measure, & dissect it. Then I'll believe they exist.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby CarlinsDarlin » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 13:21:01

darwinsdog,
I assume (and please feel free to disregard this if I am wrong) that your recent post was in reply to mine. For the record, I have no desire to convince you to believe spirits exist or not. I could care less whether you believe. What is important to me is that I believe. Your beliefs are your own. Mine are mine. When I start trying to convince you of mine, I'll let you know.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby mystiek » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 14:47:26

Smallpox what kind of doc are you? My specialty is pediatrics, the death of a child is NEVER easy-even if anticipated-that's the down side of my profession. I still have some parents that email/talk to me every once in awhile even after their child has passed. Even with situations that were congenital-with no chance of survival the parents still carry around this "guilt", always questioning if they did something different during their pregnancy etc. would it have made a difference. My parents/patients have really been helped by Hope Hospice-they provide such a wonderful service. It seems that the parents that use their services cope much better. With my own children, the subject of death comes up now and then. We visited the grave of their grandfather this last weekend and my 4 year old had alot of questions about where is grandpa? Fortunately with our Christian beliefs we teach them about being with Jesus in heaven and its reinforced at church too-so it doesn't make death a horrible "dark" topic.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby darwinsdog » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 15:02:49

Actually, CarlinsDarlin, I was responding to manu's post, but my response applies equally to any & all of you supernaturalists who postulate the reality of something without a shred of evidence that it may actually exist. Wallow in your superstition all you want. I could care less. But don't expect me to respect your inane superstition.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby Ludi » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 15:08:28

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('darwinsdog', 'A')ctually, CarlinsDarlin, I was responding to manu's post, but my response applies equally to any & all of you supernaturalists who postulate the reality of something without a shred of evidence that it may actually exist. Wallow in your superstition all you want. I could care less. But don't expect me to respect your inane superstition.


Why would anyone care if you "respect" their beliefs or not? It has nothing to do with you!

Believe it or not, the world does not revolve around you.
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby taizee » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 15:22:52

I am fine with death, what I have a problem with is the unnatural interference with it, particularly the hospitalization of Death.

My mother had a stroke in February and almost died only that tubes were put into her. I now believe that she should have been allowed die naturally. Her death process was interfered with by over zealous hospital care and some family members not wanting her to die. She was 79, had a long life, but had symptoms of dementia and had terrible pain for years..... she needed peace. Now she is in a care facility costing a fortune and is not the same person.. and is uncomfortable all the time

Why do we believe in "life" at all costs in our western "Christian " civilization ?

I am so angry. I thought the whole idea of Christianity was that there was eternal life ... why prolong it here ?

If it's time for me to go, let me go. I will write a living will. :twisted:
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Re: Death, how do you feel about it?

Unread postby killJOY » Wed 09 Jul 2008, 15:33:42

$this->bbcode_second_pass_quote('', 'S')mallpoxgirl, as a physician, I assume you've spent plenty of time around dead bodies and have watched people pass away. Have you learned anything that you didn't already know from seeing that process up close?


My experiences as a small town EMT have taught me nothing about death except that it's BANAL, yet I'm still scared shitless.

Two important experiences I can cite:

A fourteen-year-old brain-dead boy in the back of our ambulance, having just been struck by a Jet Ski. We tried to breathe for him with a bag valve mask--until grey matter was forced out the back of his head. You might think it was gross, gruesome, but it was not. Just banal. Sadly, his younger brother was sitting in the front seat of the ambulance at the time. The injured boy's vitals, believe it or not, were fine, but he had no brain.

Three twenty-somethings crammed into the front seat of a Chevy S-10 that went into a three-foot-thick pine tree at ninety miles per hour. They were all three dead by the time we showed up. We just had to hook the monitor to the girl to run a strip confirming death. They looked like they were inside a trash compacter. The driver, hanging out his door, bled out onto the road. I remember trying to feel for a carotid pulse. He felt like wax. I judged his age to be about thirty-five. When the papers said he was twenty-two, I about fell over.

Death makes you look old.

I've seen a lot of expired old people, too.

Banal.

But that does NOTHING to ease my mind at my impending extinction.
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